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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 2 months ago

Why do people have children with as$holes and then complain that they are a victim?!?

Not sure I get it. Why did they even marry, date or especially have a child with the a$** if he was an as$hole?!  

I'm sure they gave off signs early on that they weren't nice or a good match, they didn't just change overnight (at least I don't think most cases that is!).


??? Anyone know??

2 Answers

  • Archer
    Lv 7
    2 months ago
    Favorite Answer

    Many do not "chose" to see that which is so obvious to others.

  • 2 months ago

    Science tells us that it takes at least two full years to begin to see a person for who they are instead of who we WANT them to be for us in our lives. Also that a good con can pull a con for two years but it's extremely rare that they do so for longer because they often loose interest in that focus. We live in a world where people who've dated for a year (sometimes far less) think they are supposed to be getting engaged or married and often don't know their spouses as well as they think they do. 

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