I'm a little hurt, but what should I do?

My g/f told me last night she'd been talking to her adult son who lives in another province. His partner is taking courses, & has done very well..but she may go

for courses to become a Corporate Lawyer which means she'd have to go to Saskatoon & come home on weekends. This is maybe FOUR years down the road!!!! Apparently, my g/f's son said to her..."if this happens, could you..." & of course my g/f knew what it was all about. They'd like for her to move out there, & take care of their children while the son works & his partner again, just would come

home on weekends. I asked a few questions, & was told..".Oh honey...this may not be for another 4-5 years!" Her son & partner have talked about things in the past, which would be '4 years away' but never came to fruition. This has set me on end., & I don't know what to think of it. True, it's a few YEARS  down the road, & I fail to understand just why her son would even suggest this at this time.

I don't know where this would leave my g/f & I. I'm a little hurt, but what should I do? I know I shouldn't let this worry me because it's so far away, but I can't help it. Thanks.


Further, my g/f told her son that she would move there to help them out. She didnt

say anything about our relationship.

Update 2:

By the way...the children's ages currently are 6 & 3 which means if this 4yr thing

does come to fruition they would be 10 & 7.

If I were to suggest to my g/f that they could hire a babysitter, she'd become VERY defensive, & would likely say something like..."they're MY grandchildren, & it would save 'the kids" (her son & partner) some money. .

Update 3:

In one of the answers it was said "If you are asking about law school, she's  your gf/not your fiancee or wife. "Why is this any of your concern". Well, we've been a couple for a number of years. So, I feel I have a right to express how I feel about it.

4 Answers

  • 4 weeks ago

    I suggest you talk frankly with your girlfriend about your feelings and how edgy it's made you feel.  If this is something she WANTs to do you cannot stop her.  If she chooses to become babyminder for her grandchildren then that's up to her isn't it.  Your life with her and how you will both cope with her long absences should be discussed.  If it ends your relationship so be it.  Hopefully it won't.

  • Anonymous
    4 weeks ago

    Well, start with there's no degree specifically for a "corporate attorney."  If you are asking about law school, she's your gf.  She's not your fiance, not  your wife.  Why is this any of your concern?  She "didn't say anything about your relationship?"  What is there to say.  She's your gf, no more and no less.

  • Anonymous
    4 weeks ago

    Don’t get too upset about something that may never happen, and is several years in the future. They really should take care of their own children though. I don’t know the ages of their kids, but in 4-5 years they would probably all be in school during the day. It seems a bit unreasonable for him to ask his mother to move far away just so she can play nanny to school aged kids. Why can’t they just hire a babysitter to watch the kids after school? They aren’t infants. 

  • T J
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    This future uncertainty is hanging over your head and its not going to leave you. You need a very serious talk with your gf, get this settled, otherwise, maybe you need to move on. You cannot live like this for the next 4 years. It is very unfair to you.

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