How to deal with wife who keeps us awake?

My 2 year old son and I sleep in a different bedroom to her because she likes to sleep at 3 or 4am and get up at midday.

I'm trying to change my sleep schedule to get my son to daycare earlier and be more productive!

In the past our son would be sleeping at midnight with her and father in law. Father in law left for China and she moved into the spare room. Used to be a case of sleeping in the early hours of the morning and waking at 10am to drop him to daycare at 11am. Effectively leaving me with only 5 hours toddler free time to get things done.

My parents and I have been so upset with this arrangement. It is unfair for my son. So I vowed to start the week with getting up at 7am. But my lovely wife had to get up and wake us up at 2am after only 1.5 hours sleep. I can't sleep now. I got annoyed at her and she started getting aggressive trying to pull off my blanket and keeping us awake. Hopeless. Short of putting a deadlock latch on the bedroom door, what else can I do to stop her?

I don't think I can sustain days and days of only 4 hours sleep. I can't finish cleaning up the home or preparing other tasks. My life is a mess of disorganisation because there's not enough free hours to get things done! That can change if she leaves us alone and I start my day nice and early. Then I'll have more time in the evenings when my son sleeps earlier!! I don't understand why she doesn't get that.

3 Answers

  • n2mama
    Lv 7
    1 month ago
    Favorite Answer

    Divorce, divorce, divorce. You have posted over and over about your dysfunctional and abusive relationship with your wife and refuse to do what is best for you and your son. Please see a counselor about your co-dependency and how to break free from this mess for the sake of your son. Or continue to be miserable and unhappy and post question after question about it on here but not take any meaningful steps to make appropriate change.

  • 1 month ago

    This is your 374th answer.  I am stymied, for the first time! I cannot envision how to resolve this bizzare situation.  What's wrong with your wife? ! The answer lies, somehow, in her making a transition to normal and more similar sleep patterns, of course, but why would she not want to try doing this? Why does she sleep like this in the first place? Does she need to consult a sleep clinic or her doctor and would she do so?  Instead of bending yourself into a pretzel trying to accommodate her, how about insisting that she make an effort to resolve this on her end! Good luck, hope this helps.

  • i + i
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Start waking HER up at 7am, getting 

    aggressive and keeping her awake. 

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