Anonymous asked in Social ScienceGender Studies · 1 month ago

Why do idiot men tell other men not to pay attention to women and to "focus on their careers". By that time the guy is 40-50 yrs old. Why?

Assuming the man is a non-smoker, non-drug user, non-criminal, if a man works hard until his 40s and maintains his health to a reasonable standard meaning not obese has his own place, and makes six figures or over won't his options be limited? 

Either he goes  for women in their 30s that are all used up OR go for the ones in their 20s and possibly later teens as a wild card.  

5 Answers

  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Everyone has to set their own priories and assign their own goals in life. But yes, any guy who feels women are "used up" by 30 would need to nail down a wife while he's still in his 20's. Either that or make enough money to attract a vapid "trophy wife" later in life. 

  • Elana
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    I think it is apt advice for guys with low confidence.

    The better a guy's life is outside romantic spheres, the more attractive he will appear inside romantic spheres.

    And for better or for worse, yes, women do tend to date men older than themselves.  You'll hear denial, but you'll also hear that they think men mature more slowly.  Either way, your luck usually improves over your early 20s.

  • 1 month ago

    Men and Women tell each other this after a big event ( loss of parent, divorce, radical job change) because it takes your mind off the painful personal side and focus on the professional side.

    We find our mates not neccesarily by looks, but by our life lessons:

    Bankruptcy lawyers don't date ladies with CRAZY debt and no true vehicle to pay the debt off. 

    Accountants don't date ladies who can't seem to keep $1,000 in their bank account, but the ladies always seem to find money to go to great vacations.

    Burst the bubble = > Ladies and Men date people who have learned from their experiences and take action ot not do it again.

    Ex: Buy the it off. Keep driving it. Keep good insurance.

    Ex: Kick the toxic friends to the curb....if it means writing the painful  "goodbye check" and walking away....then gotta do it. ( This means getting their car fixed, and making the last 3 payments on it so they own it and then walking away from them)  

    No shame  for men or women in getting cosmetic surgery to remove the hard years of toil/work when you are later in life. Surgery is a tool just like an advanced degree or a different upbringing: it allows you to be in the same arena as other people....everything....everything is an investment.

  • Bill
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    You're assuming the advice is designed for the man to go back to women eventually when in reality it's not. The advice is designed to tell men to focus on their careers and forget about women entirely.

    @Otto: Do you want to live in a nice house in a nice area? If you do then you will need six figures.

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  • OTTO
    Lv 6
    1 month ago

    His wealth will attract young gold diggers. But as to focusing on career, some choose that path. Others are able to balance the need for romantic love with their need for vocation. And...who, really, needs 6 figures? Isn't that all about status? Male competition? No. I say one can have a mate and a career.

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