Why are always narcs attracted to empaths? ?
Eventually, the empaths will dump them and get another empath. Why don't narcs date each other instead?
***sorry for the typo
- Anonymous2 months ago
Empaths and narcissists are often drawn to each other.
This is because empaths have a lot of compassion and understanding to give, while narcissists thrive on someone worshipping them.
But this isn't a good match, because empaths tend to forgive everything the narcissist does.
This results in them being completely used and degraded, while the narcissist creates more and more chaos.
Opposites attract — or so we are told. While this rule has potential to broaden your horizons, people who are poles apart might be drawn together for all the wrong reasons.
Narcissists are attracted to people they will get the greatest use from. Often, this means they pursue and target empaths.
Empaths are the opposite of narcissists. While people with narcissistic personality disorder have no empathy, and thrive on the need for admiration, empaths are highly sensitive and in tune with other people's emotions.
Empaths are "emotional sponges," who can absorb feelings from other people very easily. This makes them them very attractive to narcissists, because they see someone who will fulfill their every need in a selfless way.
A 'toxic' attraction destined for disaster. This is a toxic attraction which is destined for disaster. What narcissists see in empaths is a giving, loving person who is going to try and be devoted to you and love you and listen to you.
But unfortunately empaths are attracted to narcissists, because at first this is about a false self. Narcissists present a false self, where they can seem charming and intelligent, and even giving, until you don't do things their way, and then they get cold, withholding and punishing.
When a narcissist is trying to hook someone in, they will be loving and attentive, but their mask soon starts to slip. At the beginning they only see the good qualities, and believe the relationship will make them look good.
This doesn't last because narcissists are full of contempt, and they see most people as below them. Once they start to notice their partner's flaws, they no longer idealise them, and they start to blame them for not being perfect.
It can sometimes take a while for the true colors to show, a psychiatrist tells her clients to never fall in love with a narcissist. But this goes against an empath's instincts, as they believe they can fix people and heal anything with compassion.
"If only they just listened more, if only they could give more," said the psychiatrist. "That is just not the case with a narcissist. It's so hard for many empaths to believe that somebody just doesn't have empathy, and that they can't heal the other person with their love.”
Narcissists love drama and chaos. Empaths work hard for harmony, whereas narcissists are looking to do the opposite. Narcissists enjoy chaos, and they like to know they can pull people's strings. Narcissists manipulate empaths by stringing them along with intermittent hope.
They will integrate compliments and kindness into their behaviour, making their victim believe that if they behave in the correct manner, they will get the loving person back who they once knew.
Empathetic people have the tendency to understand that we're all human, we all have defects, and they're willing to be patient with someone else's personal growth.
Empathetic people will be very long suffering if a narcissist says 'I really want to change, I know I'm not perfect.' They have these moments where they sort of admit fault, but they never actually follow through or believe it.
This is simply a tactic narcissists use to reel their partner back in. With empaths, it is very effective, because they want to support their partner and help them grow. Ultimately, they are just being exploited further.
The Empath Can Form A Trauma Bond.
The push and pull nature of the narcissistic relationship can generate a trauma bond between the victim and the abuser, where it can feel almost impossible to leave the relationship, no matter how much damage it is doing.
With empathy comes the ability and willingness to look at ourselves and look at our own faults, and that gets taken advantage of while the trauma bond is happening. It becomes a cycle for an empath who has been trauma bonded because they start looking at themselves, and what do they need to do to change, and what do they need to do different, and what their character flaws are. It's the perfect set up, unfortunately.
It can be difficult to comprehend the fact your are in a narcissistic relationship at first, but there are many red flags you can look out for as you get to know each other better. To keep yourself safe from narcissistic abuse, you should understand we are responsible for our own personal growth, and other people are responsible for theirs.
Boundaries are healthy for all relationships. For empaths, boundaries can feel harsh, but once they are aware of the strength of saying "no," they can protect themselves from people who are looking to take advantage of them.
Empaths don't have to become hard or hard-hearted to be able to be healthy. It's important to recognize that not everybody needs to be in our lives. We're going to come across people who we realize might not be healthy for us, and you have to be okay with letting them go.
- THE BANNIBAL ONELv 72 months ago
They want to change them.
- ?Lv 42 months ago
sometimes it happens that they hang out, in order to charge each other. but as soon as something gets out of balance, they break the 'mirror' in a short time.