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Anonymous asked in HealthMental Health · 2 months ago

How can I overcome perfectionism?

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  • ?
    Lv 5
    2 months ago

    By avoiding imperfection. 

  • 2 months ago

    There’s nothing wrong with trying to do your best. However, there’s a big difference between the healthy pursuit of excellence and the unhealthy striving for an impossible ideal. Perfectionism can be a heavy burden because nobody’s perfect. Perfectionists labor under the illusion that mistakes should never be made. Really, though, that viewpoint is flawed. 

    Keep being diligent, but add to this quality reasonableness and modesty. Try to do your work in the best way possible, and I give it you all. You will realize that it will never be perfect, but it will also bring you a happiness that you gave it your best.

    The Bible says: “Let your reasonableness become known.” (Philippians 4:5) Reasonable people are balanced in what they expect of themselves and in what they expect of others. There’s already enough pressure from outside influences. Why add unnecessary pressure by being a perfectionist? 

    Redefine “success.” Are you wearing yourself out trying to be the very best? The Bible indicates that such an effort can prove to be like “chasing the wind.” (Ecclesiastes 4:4) The fact is, few people ever succeed at being “the best.” And even when a person does, it’s usually just a matter of time before someone comes along who performs better. Success means doing your best​—not outdoing someone else’s.

    Be realistic. Your expectations should be equal to your abilities and limitations. Setting the bar too high for yourself can be a sign of immodesty​—even egotism. The apostle Paul gives sound advice: “I tell everyone there among you not to think more of himself than it is necessary to think.” (Romans 12:3) So be realistic. Revise your expectations. Seek to do your best but not to achieve perfection.

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Deal with reality instead of your stupid fantasy life.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    by realizing that you're not perfect

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  • Lili
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    A cognitive behavioral therapist can offer you much help with this.

  • 2 months ago

    There's a book with advice about this, and it's the book recommended most often by mental health professionals, according to Authoritative Guide to Mental Health Resources. It's The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr David Burns.

    The people who come here complaining of perfectionism are usually young women. A psychologist has said that girls are underachieving in the math/science courses because they're afraid of making mistakes. It's OK to be wrong once in a while.

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