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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 4 weeks ago

Should people think twice about getting a divorce if they have children? Unless there is some really horrendous abuse going on?

Update:

Many studies that they’ve done recently have shown that children generally fare better even if their parents continue in an unhappy marriage than they do when the parents get divorced. 

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  • 3 weeks ago

    Marriage is really for the children. 

    What spouses do to each other is what they get back. 

    One spouse really must do his part well to see if he lives with a rotten egg or what. Otherwise, the rotten egg is him. And two rotten eggs make a pair,  lol

    The amount of divorce advice on yahoo is so high, that it really makes the idea of mariage is useless or just for financial reasons. 

    You want to know how arranged marriages used to work in the past? 

    Because women knew and believed in Love.

    They played their role well and if separation was written in their stars, it would happen against all odds.

  • 3 weeks ago

     Of course they should. Divorce should never be taken lightly. Unfortunately in some cases, divorce is the only option. 

  • 3 weeks ago

    They should always think several times about a divorce.  It fixes some problems but introduces new ones too.  Anyone who believes that divorce is a panacea is in for a very rude shock.  You definitely want a considered and balanced expectation before embarking on a life changing action.

  • David
    Lv 6
    3 weeks ago

    No.  "for the children" is the worst excuse to do anything...or to NOT do something...

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  • T J
    Lv 6
    3 weeks ago

    Never stay for the children.

  • Anonymous
    3 weeks ago

    Divorce takes time.  People don't do it on a whim.  They don't just go out one day and get a spontaneous divorce.  Divorce happens because relationships are unhappy.  Forcing people to stay in unhappy relationship makes things worse.  The kids are better off if their parents are happy, even if that means divorced or remarried.  Knowing your parents are miserable because of you is a huge burden.

  • Anonymous
    3 weeks ago

    some of the risk factors that divorce can create for kids actually exist before an unhappily married couple divorces. The worst situation for kids is when unhappily married parents, particularly those in high-conflict marriages, stay together. A better question is this: "What circumstances make divorce harmful or beneficial to kids?" And the answer is that, on average, divorce actually helps kids when it ends an unhappy, high-conflict marriage.

  • Janet
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    It takes about 20 years to figure out how to relax and accept the issues and the flaws in a marriage and no matter WHO we marry, we either have to master this or we will never have a happy marriage.

    Yes ... never try to accept abuse.  And children are resiulient and can recover from divorce as long as they are not expected to take sides and are able to maintain their relationship with both parents.

    Nonetheless, so often we leave too soon.  And the more times we divorce, the lower the odds of a subsequent marriage working out.

    Marriages go through stages ... or get stuck in one of the difficult stages ... and bail out.  Conflict stages are followed by an alienation phase ... where hopefully we calm down frm the previous conflict stage and re-awaken at about 20 years that still want our partner and it isn't worth getting ourselves upset over issues that will never be resolved.

    It is best to try to save it ... try marriage counselling, but if your partner won't go, then there really isn't a marriage anyway and therefore nothing to work on anymore.

  • Dze
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    yep .. i think the laws should be changed to prevent the person filing for divorce from getting custody or any assets also .. you walk away if you file for divorce with kids unless you can 'prove' criminal reasons for wanting to leave .. 

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