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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingPregnancy · 1 month ago

Am I selfish? What shall I do?

I love my baby. He’s three weeks old. I don’t have family and friends. My fiancé works long night shifts. I don’t know how I will cope when he goes back. I am not maternal or motherly. Yes I made the choice to have the baby but now I’m desperately regretting it. (AS I did while pregnant) I knew subconsciously it would be too much for me. My pregnancy wasn’t planned nor actively avoided. I am 21 in November. I keep saying I’m gonna run away (like a coward) but I think I may as well end it all as my life will not amount to anything else. Is this all there is to life? My life is very mediocre and even more so now with a baby. My partner loves the baby so much. I delt as though I instantly rejected him when he was placed on my chest , I was practically jumping off the hospital bed. I don’t know what to do. Some advice needed or have I just made my bed now lay in it. I know mothers are meant to be selfless but I’m very selfish and I don’t know how it gets better. Is this it? It’s so pointless.  Help. 

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  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    You sound very similar to me, i’m currently pregnant, have no friends or family husband works nights so i’m alone at night too, i’m worried about how things will change when baby comes. as soon as i found out i was pregnant I became depressed too

  • MissA
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Hello there, young woman with a RAGING case of postpartum depression.

    Step one is go to your doctor and tell them, "I keep daydreaming about killing myself or running away."  Take their advice... medication, therapy, whatever. Then reach out to whoever else can help you... your mom is usually a good person to approach for this, but friends, your partner, and other family are also options. Here is a useful website:

    https://www.postpartum.net/

    Because right now this isn't you talking and seeing yourself accurately.  It's the bad brain chemicals, and the bad brain chemicals HATE YOU.  If you can get those in order (and almost always you can!) then you'll be able to see yourself more clearly... and also, incidentally, to bond better with your baby.  It does NOT always happen right away for everyone, it doesn't make you a bad mother or even unusual.

  • LizB
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Well, I can tell you from first hand experience that the first year with a baby is basically a wash, because you're so tired all the time from a baby waking you up several times every night that your brain turns to mush and you get very little done outside of keeping your tiny person alive and getting yourself a shower now and then. That was quite the shock to me with my first (plus on top of that I barely survived some serious complications and remained sick for months), but with my second I expected it, and coped much better.

    Believe it or not, what you're experiencing right now is not unheard of. Not all new mothers bond instantly with their newborns the second they come out of the womb, for some of us it takes time. The amount of *work* involved with caring for an infant can also be overwhelming, especially the first few months when it seems like you get nothing back because your newborn is basically a potato that cries and doesn't emote much else. But once baby starts smiling, giggling, and actually reacting to you, it does start to feel more rewarding. But one does stay in this "fulfiller of needs" state for quite some time.

    I think you posted another question where I made two suggestions about talking to your midwife/OB about a therapist and also planning to return to work, and I maintain these two suggestions. If you're having suicidal ideation, that is serious. You need to talk to someone ASAP, because there is treatment that can help. Please don't feel like because you're 21 and a mom that your life is over, though, because it's not. Far from it. But you will be immersed in baby-land (and then toddler-land) for quite a while, and it'll be a little while before you start feeling like yourself again. Given how you feel, I would *highly* recommend that you do everything you can to avoid getting pregnant again anytime within the next few years. If you and your husband want more kids someday, maybe wait until this one is at least in preschool before you start considering it.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Please, ma'am, don't do anything foolish. You are obviously depressed, which is very common in the first weeks after delivery. And you need to call a mental health professional or call your doctor and ask for a recommendation to one, so that you can get some help. PLEASE DON'T WAIT to act, for your sake and your baby's, not to mention your fiance's sake. If you think even for a nanosecond that he wouldn't be hurt by your "ending it" as you put it, THINK AGAIN.

    It's not unusual or abnormal for you to feel the way you do right now. MANY women experience postpartum depression- and some of them experience it severely and present a threat to themselves and their newborns. From the way you have worded your question, I think there is a chance that you may in fact be in that category, and if so, you need HELP right way ! Something else to remember is that even though it APPEARS that your fiance loves the baby more than he does you right now, that is just on the surface- and looks are often deceiving. What matters is what's underneath. He wouldn't have asked you to marry him and spend your life with him if he didn't love or care about you. People don't marry someone if they aren't in love with that person, not these days. And quit deluding yourself with the myth that women are supposed to be selfless when they become mothers. That's nonsense. YOU have needs TOO, and those needs aren't being MET right now. It isn't just all about the baby, because if you're not around, what will become of your baby? You have a place too. And one of the things you need to do right now is have a serious discussion with your fiance about your needs, especially your need for HELP at night so you can get some sleep. It's UNFAIR to both you and your baby that he's gone all the time. I'm assuming he probably sleeps during the day, leaving you alone then, too. In other words, he's gone right on living his life as though nothing has changed, while you've been stuck with all the responsibility for the life that BOTH OF YOU created. In my mind, that means that HE IS the selfish one here- not to mention that he's totally IRRESPONSIBLE. There's more to being a father than just making a sperm deposit and inserting Tab A into slot B, if you get my meaning. He needs to step up to the plate and take some responsibility for his baby, so that you get a break when you need one. If that means he has to work fewer hours, then SO BE IT. Parenthood and marriage are both about COMPROMISE on the part of both partners. What has happened in your case is that you've allowed him to more or less ride roughshod over you, and leave you to deal with the baby and everything else, while he gets to live his life as normal. And that's not right.

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