Do men only treat the women they are truly interested in with respect? And the ones he is not so interested in like trash?

Or does it all come down to how they are as a whole person? 

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  • 1 month ago

    Just because a man isn't interested in a girl romantically, it doesn't mean he has to be mean and disrespectful. If a guy does this, he's probably not going to treat a girlfriend that well, either.  Plus that behavior would really show his true colors/level of immaturity.  Why treat people like trash just because we wouldn't date them?

    Dating someone usually takes mutual attraction and an interest in getting to know someone better to see if they have partner potential.  This guy does not if you ask me. 

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Love bombing, this can happen to both men and women, it happens when someone overwhelms you with loving words, actions, and behavior as a manipulation technique. It’s often used to win over your trust and affection so that they can meet a goal of theirs.

    They lavish you with gifts, this can seem harmless enough, but the point is to manipulate you into thinking you owe them something. Most often, love bombing is done by a narcissist with the intent of drawing in and gaining control over the person who is being love bombed. 

    They can’t stop complimenting you, we all crave admiration, but constant praise can make your head spin. If someone’s expressing their undying love after just a short amount of time, it’s a potential red flag that their feelings aren’t genuine.

    Some common, over-the-top phrases they might use include:

    “I love everything about you.”

    “I’ve never met anyone as perfect as you.”

    “You’re the only person I want to spend time with.”

    On their own, these phrases aren’t necessarily harmful, but it’s important to consider them in the larger context of someone’s overall behavior.

    They bombard you with phone calls and texts. They call, text, and message you over social media 24/7. While being in constant communication is normal when you’re first dating, it’s a red flag if the communication feels one-sided and becomes increasingly overwhelming. Take note if they begin texting you early in the morning and every hour on the hour, it’s a red flag.

    They want your undivided attention. When your focus isn’t on the other person, they might become angry. This can look like pouting when you’re on the phone with friends or refusing to leave after you say you have to hang up or be at work early the next day.

    True love does not want all your time and energy focused on them alone. They respect other commitments, ideas, and boundaries.

    They try to convince you that you’re soulmates. Telling you they dreamed that God told them you two should marry is a manipulation tactic. If what they say sounds right out of a film, take heed. Hollywood is great for entertainment, but true love and relationships don’t look like the movies.

    Some other things they might say:

    “We were born to be together.”

    “It’s fate that we met.”

    “You understand me more than anyone.”

    “We’re soulmates.”

    They want commitment and they want it now. A love bomber might pressure you into rushing things and making big plans for the future. They’ll mention things like marriage or moving in together when you’ve only known each other a short while. The thing to keep in mind that real relationships take time to develop. It’s very unlikely the person really can love you more than anything in the world in 2 weeks. Or two days. Or 2 hours. Or even 2 months.

    They get upset when you place boundaries. When you try to tell them to slow down, they’ll continue to try to manipulate you to get what they want. Someone who legitimately cares, on the other hand, will respect your wishes and back off. Love bombers also get upset about any boundaries with regard to access to you or you accepting their displays of love. It’s like a tsunami of affection and they expect you to accept it all.

    They’re overly needy. No matter how much time and access you give them, it never seems to be enough. But ask yourself: Are you bailing on friends because they can’t stand to be alone? Or do you feel obligated to answer every text because they gifted you that expensive iPhone? Someone toxic will make you feel indebted to them so that they can rely on you day and night.

    You’re overwhelmed by their intensity. They never turn down the charm and seem to be running on all cylinders when you’re with them. You never know what to expect from one moment to the next and feel pressured into seeing them round the clock. Legitimate love has its ups and downs, but it’s respectful and not overbearing. “It is patient, kind, and gentle.”

    You feel unbalanced. Being love bombed can feel intoxicating at first, but you might also feel a bit uneasy, waiting for the other shoe to drop. Pay attention to these anxious feelings. It’s important to be attuned to your intuition, so you can be informed instead of being carried away by love bombing tactics.

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