Would you be okay with this if you lent your girlfriend your car?  Why or why not?

You lend her the car while you're at work.  She picks you up with her female friend in the car and puts you in the back seat.  Another incident at the bar, she uses the car to carry something to her sister she says, and her friend is with us, and when she comes back, she's in the passenger seat and her friend is driving instead.

Would you be okay with this?  Why or why not?

2 Answers

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Boundaries. If you let her use your car then you need to give her boundaries. Only she gets to drive, she doesn't take on passengers without checking with you first, etc. You are allowed to be upset by this for sure, but you are also somewhat responsible for not laying down ground rules first. Also, if sitting in the back when there is already a passenger in the front bothers you then you need to politely ask to switch seats. Not say nothing and be upset later. Speak up!

  • 1 month ago

    It might depend rather on how the car is insured. Strictly speaking a person would have to have your permission anyway in most places. Don't be a wimp: ask her not to allow anyone else to drive your car without asking you. No need for a row, of course, but be quite firm in case it becomes the thin edge of a wedge. You may be able to use the insurance for a reason, unless your car is insured fully comprehensively for any driver - and even then there may be restrictions regarding age, previous accidents/claims, etc., criminal record......

    Good Luck!

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