How do I get a mutual bond with someone?
Apparently I come off emotionless with flat affect and people have said I look confused, robotic, flat affect. I have no friends and havent for years. I did have traumatic events for me which have to do with that. But anyway I suck at conversations in real life. I have social anxiety and am really quiet.i want a husband or friends but apparently its harr to make a bond with others when they judge you as emotionless or something else like that, which a ot of people may do to me.
- Anonymous3 months ago
I agree you should talk to someone. A therapist is a start. Having "no friends" is really concerning to me. Do you realize when you're being "emotionless" or is it just how you normally talk? I've known a few people who seem quite bland and I try to dig deeper to get to know them and they end up opening up. There are people who want a bond just as much as you. I wouldn't judge you! Anyway, in some ways, I think I know what you are feeling. There was a guy who at first was interested in me until he found me "too sad." He told me that I was a sad girl and then apologized. I was quite offended. He didn't like me because I had deeper emotions than the average woman? He didn't like me because I didn't put on a fake smile when things weren't going well? Well, his loss!