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Would it be rude to ask this?

A married couple has 3 children or more who are all the same gender. One of the children gets married but one of the siblings is not in the wedding. Would it be inconsiderate to ask that particular brother of the groom, "How come you're not a groomsman?" or that particular sister of the bride, "How come you're not a bridesmaid?"

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  • Ocimom
    Lv 7
    2 months ago
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    Yes it would be very rude.  Perhaps the sibling just didn't want to be part of the wedding party.

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  • L
    Lv 4
    2 months ago

    Really none of your business.  Families do what ever they want to do.

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  • 2 months ago

    I wouldn't ask... seems rude.

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Yes it would be rude.  

    It would also be pointless because:

    1)  That person is not privy to the bride's/groom's reasoning; and

    2)  There is nothing automatic about siblings being part of the wedding party.

    Butt out.

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    It's rude but I am sure they will not get offended.

  • 2 months ago

    Yes, it would be insensitive to ask that question at all, especially during the wedding. It can only bring up a conflict.  And as another said it is none of your business.  If you were a close friend one either he or she would have told you, or you would care enough about the bride and groom not to make trouble during their wedding.   It can only make some people feel bad.  It could be, the brother or sister could not afford the cost of being in the wedding party, and had to decline and pointing it out, would make both the bride and groom feel bad, and the brother or sister who could not afford it.  Why would you think it would be OK to ask a question that can only bring up a negative feelings.   

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  • 2 months ago

    It would be socially pretty weird and borderline rude to ask.

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  • 2 months ago

    Absolutely do not ask. 

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  • 2 months ago

    I'm not really sure why you'd ask this question or why you'd even think of asking? Unless your life is so boring that you have to poke your nose into everyone else's life

    I wouldn't even give this situation a passing thought

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  • 2 months ago

    yes, i think it would be rude

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Yes, it's rude.

    Ask yourself, "Is this something I really need to know?"

    It's not, so mind your own business.

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