What is the difference between being a very mean person or a person who isn't very nice.?
- WoodrowLv 41 month agoFavorite Answer
I often make the distinction between being inconsiderate or outright horrible vs rude because everyone these days seems to think everything is rude.
It would be downright inconsiderate to splash grease all over the oven so your roommates have to deal with the smoke when they use it next. It's inconsiderate to sit on gym equipment while playing with your phone. It's downright horrible to laugh at people on the street "look at that hat! hahahaha!" You are a real POS if you scream from passing cars or worse, throw things from them.
It is rude to not burp after a dinner in Japan. It is rude to only offer 2 cheek kisses to a proper lady in France. It is rude to gift an odd number of flowers to the master of the house in China because that means you want them dead...
The theme in rudeness is how isolated and esoteric it is to a particular group or culture. Not everybody knows or should know that on Canary Island off the coast of North Carolina it has been a tradition to wear a pink ribbon on your lapel from March to July to remember the battle of Hiestenberg and the death of Princess Mary to the invading Spaniards. Yes it's rude because that's what that isolated community knows to do around each other, but not everybody knows that. And that's what I witness as being described as rude. You'll be in a mall in Chicago and someone will huff and puff at you for being rude. You later figure out that something like my little scenario is what they are in a huff about. You didn't turn your toe away from them as a land owner like they used to do when they were in Hawaii for 2 summers 20 years ago. It's the definition of kitsch, assuming one's interpretation is universal.
- 1 month ago
What does being a nice person mean? Sometimes people are perceived as not being very nice because they don't smile often, or are forward in the way they ask for what they want or what they say in general. Some people just keep their heads down to the grind while working. Some people know how to say "no" when needed. This person my be looked at as mean but they are not. They just might be a no nonsense type of person but they can be super kind in other ways.
Some people perceive a mean person is someone who's not going around kissing people's butt's doing everything for everyone.
I think as long as you are doing the right things to not go out of your way to hurt anyone and have a reason why you do what you or what you say and your intentions are pure and that you are just living your life taking care of what you need to, then that's just being a nice person. If people call you mean, ask yourself are you mean? If the answer is no then keep it going and let people think that they want.
You don't have to prove yourself to anyone. Just because someone wants to lable you mean, it doesn't mean it's time for a trial where you have to prove yourself. Let them do be with their judgy own selves.
- RobertLv 61 month ago
A very mean person goes out of their way to do mean things to someone else. A person who isn't very nice just doesn't care about you so they neither help or hinder you.
- GoergeLv 71 month ago
A bully finds his prey and beats his a$$. Mean.
A person sees a bicyclist involved in a hit and run but it was in his rear view and traffic is a mess, someone else will stop. Not nice.
Your girlfriend really don't like you no more. She however chose the slow fade. Mean.
Your girlfriend don't like you no more and breaks up with you. Not nice(nor is it wrong).