My sister is a bully to me because I am awkward socially. How do I stand up to her?
We’re both adults
- AmbarLv 42 months agoFavorite Answer
You cannot control what people say to you or how they treat you, but you can control how you react to it and who you choose to spend time with. How you react can either encourage people to keep bullying or could make them lose interest in it. She is your sister, maybe try talking to her, if that doesn't work, here are some things you can do …
1) Don’t react. Bullies want to know that they’ve succeeded in making you feel bad about yourself, if you don’t react, they lose interest.” The Bible says: “He that is wise keeps it calm to the last.”—Proverbs 29:11
2) Try an unexpected response. Maybe a calm and non-negative response. The Bible says: “An answer, when mild, turns away rage.”—Proverbs 15:1.
3) Use humor. Maybe laugh it off or make light of it. For example, if someone teases you that you’re overweight, you could simply shrug your shoulders and say, “I guess I could lose a few pounds!” They want you to feel bad, but if you show that it doesn’t bother you, they will probably lose interest.
4) Walk away. “Silence shows that you are mature and that you are stronger than the person harassing you. It demonstrates self-control—something the bully doesn’t have.
5) Work on your self-confidence. Bullies notice when you aren’t relaxed and they might use that to destroy whatever self-confidence you have. To work on your self-confidence, focus on your strengths. (2 Corinthians 11:6) While it’s good to be aware of your flaws, you also have much to offer. Recognizing your assets will give you the confidence you need to break free from a negative self-image and overcome much of your insecurities, this will show in your demeanor, how you speak and act. Ask yourself, ‘What are my strengths?’ Think of some talents or positive qualities that you possess. Maybe take up learning a new skill or hobby, something you would enjoy and improve on it. This will not only help you build self-confidence, but it will improve your overall mood and happiness.
For tips on improving in social situations, see the following links, I know you said you are an adult, and the information in these links are designed for teens and young adults, but the advice is timeless and can be applied to all ages …
- Anonymous2 months ago
Silent treatment. Works every time.
- PatriciaLv 72 months ago
Your sister is a bully toward you because you are allowing it.
- Anonymous2 months ago
The next time you come face-to-face with her, drop to one knee and punch straight out.Source(s): Really need to more to go on, specifically, about what she is doing to bully you.
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- TomLv 42 months ago
Then she should know better.