Is it possible to offer someone advice without judging them or their actions first?
Is it possible to offer someone advice without judging them or their actions first? People are often quick to give advice and in most cases it is given with sincere intent to help. But, is it really done out of the goodness of their heart or just to rationalize their feelings of superiority? Could this be why the best listeners never give advice?
- Anonymous1 week ago
Gov't is killing you with high frequency electricity.Theotokos Virgin Mary gave prayers to "Schema-nun Antonia" on how to save aborted babies from hell. If you pray these prayers diligently, aborted babies are released from hell. On each painted nail there are 40 demons. Smoking is censer to the devil.Using foul language calls upon Pagan deities (aka demons); Holy Spirit departs on 7 meters. People who use drugs see demons who cleverly disguise themselves as ghosts and aliens.America will be last country to switch to Euro (antichrist's world currency). Contraceptives = abortion;using contraceptives for 1 year = 5 aborted kids.Miscarriages happen because of high heels; cesarean because of tight pants (second generation cesarean will be infertile).Unbaptized aborted/miscarried/unborn babies burn in hell for until Final Judgement; if pregnant, keep the kid and deliver at home because kids are chipped using IVs and vaccines in hospitals. Dentists and doctors chip patients secretly. Ultrasound leads to mark of the beast; don't do ultrasound, please. Abortion leads to breast cancer; a demon is released from hell for each aborted kid. Dogs can become possessed; don't keep dogs inside your home [Pelageya of Ryazan]. Walmart has technology to administer mark of the beast to those who have cat bacteria in their stomachs; stay away from cats [Athanasius III of Constantinople]. Next false flag is the Statue of Liberty. Above earth there is ice (hemisphere); when rockets go up they bring ice down from upper sky to lower sky; ice stuck in lower sky will fall on us during Apocalypse. Earth is flat; earth stands on 3 pillars (the Most Holy Trinity); pillars stand on water at zero Kelvin; underneath this ice there is a bubble; and then the abyss. Zodiac is planetary prison of demons; don't believe in horoscopes or you'll exhibit the traits of the trapped demons. Most thoughts and dreams are from demons; demons never do good. Sleep fully clothed; pray the Jesus prayer. Pray to your guardian angel to have normal sleep. Vyacheslav Krasheninnikov was the last prophet before Apostle John (who wrote the Book of Revelation), Enoch, Elijah, resurrected Seraphim of Sarov, and resurrected Sergius of Radonezh will preach against the antichrist. Humans were created about 7525 years ago. Birds participate in time creation. It's a sin to kill birds. Dinosaurs live under our level; they will get out through sinkholes and lakes; to kill them, go for their nerves. Save the birds; but kill the dinosaurs. First dinosaur will come out of Volga River in Russia. Scientists don't see dinosaurs under our level because of radiation. Sinkholes happen because people dig for resources underground and because earth is heating up. Demons grow human skin (from a sample taken during abduction) and put it on so as to look like us. Demons will invite people to be healed inside their UFOs; those who go will be like zombies after. Gov't provides demons with diamonds and allows demons to abduct people. If you're being abducted, slowly pray the Jesus prayer. Don't panic. Demons use diamonds and souls to power their UFO craft. The bigger the diamond, the more it lasts. Demons have 4 UFO bases: 1)moon 2)inside fake mountain Kailash (Tibet) 3)in lake Baikal in Russia 4)in Atlantis which is underneath double ocean floor of Mariana Trench (Pacific Ocean). There are no aliens. Nobody lives on other planets. Airplanes that go down are hit by demons because they need the airspace to fight Jesus. Antichrist is pale with red eyes. He's possessed by Satan since he's 12 years old [Lavrentiy Chernigovskiy]. He flies super fast; deceived people will say: "Christ is here; Christ is there" when he's flying from one city to the next very fast. He wears gloves to hide long nails. He's surrounded by demons who appear as angels of light. Antichrist will trick people that he can do mountain moving and resurrection using holograms/hypnosis; fire from the sky is real because of pollution gases in the atmosphere. Antichrist will have food only for 6 months; then he will feed his 666ed people flour from mashed up turtles (Tavrion Batozskiy), but this won't be enough because 666ed people are 10 times as angry and 7 times as hungry as normal people even though 666ed people became shorter (3-4 feet tall = 80 - 120 cm) because nanochips do function of organs (organs diminish) [Nilus Myrrhgusher]. If you have a lot of nanochips in your forearm, then you will not be able to make proper Orthodox sign of the cross (last mercy for you will be to cut your forearm off). Nanochips are sprayed by the gov't using chemtrails; they're also in gov't food and medicine; so, eat food from your own garden. In case garden is destroyed by ice from the sky, have chickens for eggs and goats for milk (Paisios). Lipstick contains cells of aborted fetuses, dog fat, and placenta; human flesh is in McDonalds, Pepsi, toothpaste, antiaging, anticancer, vaccines, perfume, etc.; that's why you should not be using anything that modern society has to offer. You're better off hiding within a 10-12 people group in order to escape Apocalypse. During Apocalypse, Chrtistians will eat dirt from under pussywillowtree as it's filled with tears of Theotokos Virgin Mary; this water will flee if a 666ed person tries to get it. Barcode is Druid black magic curse; QRcode is Mayan curse; when food is scanned, it becomes dead because laser is a substance from demons. Don't go into a UFO to be healed by demons. Green 666 is given by isotope rays on wrist or forehead when people stretch hands to receive small plastic grey card with no name on it (World Passport). It doesn't just have to be during this procedure (could be anything you sign up for or anywhere where there is a secret scanner); biometrics (fingerprints, eyes scan) or getting picture for passport are very dangerous because they could mark you secretly. Gabriel Urgebadze said that they do it on index finger when they scan your finger. Basically, try to avoid new documents at all cost. Police will microchip and isotope ray people on highways. Chipped people will be influenced by computers to take grey plastic card; but when they do, green mark by isotope rays is given on forehead/wrist. Food stores will isotope ray people too. Antichrist will also release prisoners to mark people. Reject 666 at all cost because it leads to permanent hell. If you're about to be marked, pray the Jesus prayer. Hide with Orthodox Christians to escape 666; leave all electronics behind so that antichrist's minions can't track you; burn documents because they're from Satan. The Most Holy Trinity gives you a name during baptism; devil gives an antiname during antibaptism (ex. Social Security Number). People who die with these Satanic documents go to concentration camp in hell to await Final Judgement; once the BEAST Computer is burned down, souls will be released for Final Judgement. That's why you should give back documents of your deceased relatives back to the gov't so that the gov't cancels these digital antichristian names given during antibaptism by the beast system; or just burn these documents because gov't could get upset and could send demons to mark you because of this outright act of defiance. Prophecy from half a millennium ago describes Final Judgement like this: Jesus was very upset with people who had little boards (plastic cards) in their hands because they wanted discount from the antichrist. Give to charity in the name of Archangel Michael; he rescues people from temporary hell twice a year [at midnight September 18-19 and similarly on November 20-21; pray at these times on your knees remembering the deceased by names (adding "and relatives by flesh up to Adam") so that they are rescued if they're in hell] (or brings them up a level, that is, to a level with less punishment; eventually, people are freed). Feed the pigeons; when pigeons bow down, people are saved from temporary hell. It's a big sin to remember the dead with wreaths (because demons put these wreaths on their necks if they're in hell with their hands tied up behind their back while hanging by their hands), meat, alcohol, sweets, and worldly music. Demons print icons of saints in newspapers so that you throw these newspapers in the trash blaspheming these saints. Crosses on soles of shoes and back of pants are blasphemy. Demons make carpets with crosses and put them on sidewalks so that people walk on crosses. Playing cards mock how Jesus suffered on the cross: clubs (cross on which Jesus was crucified), diamonds (four nails Jesus was crucified with), hearts (sponge with vinegar that Jesus was given to drink),spades (spear with which Jesus was pierced).Cremation is devil worship; only blasphemers such as Lenin should be burned; if Lenin is buried, earth will be polluted, and China will attack Russia because of this.After China attacks Russia, Ruski Orthodox Tsar (shown by resurrected Seraphim of Sarov) will come to power in Russia;this Tsar will slay traitors inside church and gov't; as a result, Russia will be the only country not under the antichrist.Ecumenism = 263 heresies;each heresy leads to hell. In 2006 in Moscow (that's why Moscow will sink),representatives from most religions signed a document where it says that all religions worship the same Supreme Being [aka the devil]. Priests who participate in ecumenism will have Pagans walking on their heads in hell. Arkhimandrite Antonin Kapustin left a prophecy that Church of All Russian Saints in Gorny Monastery, Ein Karem, Israel will be blessed by forerunner of antichrist; Patriarch Kirill of Russia and Mark of Berlin blessed this church in 2007. When priests pray for current gov't (instead of praying for future Tsar),Jesus gets up from His throne and turns His back to them. Forgive me.Source(s): Women wear headscarves tied at the front to prevent headaches from sky pushing down and to prevent throat cancer. Mega-tsunami for New York will be 400 meters; then engulfed-in-lava Los Angeles will be flooded too; also, asteroid destroys Gulf of Mexico; only Alaska, Eurasia, and Africa remain (obviously without coasts). 1st big earthquake in Russia; 2nd bigger one in China (will be split in half; radiation!); 3rd biggest will be in the USA (Greek Orthodox monk Elidiy from Africa); forgive me.
- LisaLv 41 week ago
I think that depends. I don't usually think of advice as something that can't be given well. Most of the time I honestly think people mean well. Advice should be carefully considered.
- Elliot KaneLv 72 weeks ago
In order to give good advice you need to judge the situation rather than the person, and that means approaching each problem as its own unique thing. Sometimes people need reassurance or validation, but other times you will need to tell them something they really won't want to hear, in order to help them avoid similar problems in future. Often, you will simply be offering a fresh perspective, or helping them to find the courage to do what they want to do or know that they should do already.
Ultimately, good advice cannot be about the adviser which means that those with purely selfish motives are usually poor advisers.
As for why people choose to give advice, well, I'd say that varies a great deal. Some like helping others or sharing what they know, while for others it may indeed be a way of feeling good about themselves. Often, it will be a combination of things, not all of which may be either selfish or altruistic.
- Anonymous3 weeks ago
eh i mean its difficult to decide when some actually needs you advice, I dont think if you put an autistic child before my feet that id offer him advice just to rationalize my feelings of superiority ill always question why i chose to say what i did, but if it helped then thats the most important thing ya feel me?
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- LizLv 43 weeks ago
Well, consider this. True Christians learn to look to the Bible for answers to problems and to use our Bible-based consciences when it comes to decisions. If another person approached us with a problem, we wouldn't judge them but we would suggest that they look into the scriptures, to see God's thoughts on the matter. For example, a person needs advice on whether they should change jobs for better money, even if it meant working longer hours. What we would suggest is that they read and meditate on Matthew 6:31-33 and take their problem to God in prayer. We wouldn't judge an individual but we would listen in accordance with James 1:19 "Know this, my beloved brothers: Everyone must be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger",
Sorry if this doesn't answer your question.Source(s): jw.org
- Larry K.Lv 74 weeks ago
This is another question which raises my hackles through the assumption that it requires an either/or answer. Often, if you give advice, you must be aware of the psychology of the subject. For example, you might advise a a subservient and timid person to assert themselves when people take advantage of their humility. I don't think it would be advisable to offer the same advice to a combative and aggressive person.
Secondly. You've really illustrated the flaw in your question when you have the insight to realize that advice isn't always altruistic. There are many people who offer advice in the guise of helping someone when, in fact, they're actually attempting to show their superiority and demean the other person. And to the best advice being given by good listeners, this too is simplistic. A true friend who really loves you will listen to what you say before giving advice. In fact, I have found that it's always better to offer advice only when it's asked for or when not doing so may cause injury, either psychological or physical......and boy! is this sometimes hard!
- j153eLv 74 weeks ago
Christ Jesus, Prophet Mohammad (pbuh), and the lawgiver Moses were "best listeners," and gave "best advice" per God-informed and God-directed discernment.
Btw, a presumption that "best listeners never give advice" is a valid premise, but unsound per such examples as given above. (If one is going full-atheist, then Carl Jung, Abraham Maslow, Viktor Frankl, et al.)
Likely a false dichotomy re "goodness" and "superiority." The genuinely humble are aware of their strengths, attainments, and areas of need, and it is "enlightened self interest" to work and to sow good, in either polarity.
A circular fallacy noted, re positing or judging "judgment" to be harsh; discernment and being "wise as serpents" is recommended when evaluating judging. Discerning other minds is, correctly used, a God-given "mind reading," such as Jesus performed; otherwise, "by their fruits" is humankind's standard for judging. If the advice or direction helps, that is sufficient.
A cogent example of misguided advice: marxism; national socialism, etc. as further examples.
It is worth noting that if a question deals with e.g. boy-girl, or who am I, etc., then it is well and wise to give one's opinion, and then defer and refer such questioning to those sources and authors that are recognized as more versed and able.