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Anonymous asked in HealthMental Health · 1 month ago

Falsely accused of shoplifting now too scared to go into any stores?

I bought something at a shop recently and paid for it but as I left I was told to put back what I stole, he didn’t give me the chance to explain that I never took anything only telling me that he saw me put another item in my pocket (I didn’t) he got a little aggressive (verbally) and I was told not to go back. This doesn’t really seem like a big deal so I understand it’s irrational but I now get really high anxiety going into stores and think about this often. Any advice on how to get rid of that? Sorry if this is long. (Don’t just say ‘get over it’ because I would if it was that simple.)

Update:

Also, there isn’t a manager or head office. It’s an individually run store.

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  • 1 month ago
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    There is no "get over it," so ignore people who say that. Psychology professionals are actually being taught now to not say things like help you "move on" etc. You instead acknowledge your feelings which I assume include humiliation powerlessness, anger, sadness, and fear. All of these are normal as feelings are our guides as in the warn us of danger and encourage us to avoid negative stimuli. You can work through these feelings, so you can continue to go to stores and not be as triggered by creating positive experiences. Its a numbers game essentially, in that you go to the store, purchase a pack of gum for example....go to another store, purchase a magazine, etc. If you have 700 positive store experiences, overtime, that one negative experience becomes less triggering. You always remember it, u just learn coping skills to function in spite of it. Claim your power back by leaving a Yelp and Google review of your experience at this store and how hurt you were. They hate that!

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  • LAN
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    1 month ago

    Your lie is obvious because that isn't what happens to people suspected of shoplifting.  Grow up and stop posting drama seeking idiocy over and over.

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    • LAN
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      1 month agoReport

      Then you are an idiot and a liar. as long as you are in the US that wouldn't have happened the way it did due to our laws.   Try learning how things really work before you try to write this kind of childish fiction.

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  • 1 month ago

    maybe you should tell the manager what that worker did

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    You got off lucky. l was tackIed by two security guards, heId for 4 hours in a tiny room, and forced to sign a confession that was disguised as something eIse. l then had a IegaI battIe over 'cosmetics' l apparentIy stoIe with huge attorneys fees and the end resuIt was not at aII satisfactory.

    Anyway, l understand the feeIing. Maybe go to stores where peopIe are more famiIiar with you? Get to know the cashiers and the workers there. Try to start a conversation with them. Keep everything transparent, try not to stay in the store too long, etc. If you stiII can't do it, consider therapy.

    • LAN
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      1 month agoReport

      Maybe you shouldn't have tried to steal in the first place.

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  • 1 month ago

    The way to overcome this is to regain the control you lost.

    You can do this by finding the contact details of the store and writing to their head office and tell them exactly what happened AND how you feel now because of it. My guess is you will receive a sincere apology.

    That alone may not fix it but I suggest once you get the apology, print it out and take it with you to the store. That should be the backup you need if confronted again.

    Merely say this has happened before and i could have had you fired for the way you treated me. Do it again and I will see to it you are!

    That is how you take back control.. and hopefully get over what happened.

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    • LAN
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      1 month agoReport

      If that had really happened then their isn't a lawyer alive that wouldn't take the case on a percentage of the payout.  She is either lying outright or she stole something and got off easy.

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