How do I better communicate with my girlfriend? ?
We "co-habitate" and there have been many cleanliness issue, mostly stemming from her laziness (such as her un-willingness to dust even though we have 2 dogs together.) Our fights usually stem from us getting frustrated with each others crap that gets 'piled' everywhere. She also has a bit of an emotional connection issue, and gets in a heated temper when I try to get serious and talk about our problems or her feelings.
P.S. We are on a loosely defined chore schedule where I do dishes and dog-cleanup, and she does laundry and topical cleaning. I was unaware she hated dusting until yesterday, and we definitely need clear responsibilities in cleaning the rest of this place. Things seemed great until yesterday 😂
- SlicksterLv 62 months agoFavorite Answer
Sounds like it’s quite difficult for you. I wouldn’t want to date someone like that. I guess if you really care about someone, you try to see past their imperfections. As for your issues with communicating with her, maybe you’re taking the wrong approach. Try to not bring up certain subjects in an argumentative way and just be diplomatic in your approach. Explain yourself in a way that she’ll understand. Good luck. You’re going to need it.
- 2 months ago
I appreciate all of these :D, I really want to make this work
- historyLv 72 months ago
Make an outline and assignment of household chores.
- LizBLv 72 months ago
Well, do you dust at least half the time, or do you expect her to do it all? If dusting is that important to you, maybe you should do all the dusting while she takes on the bulk of another chore that that you dislike more than she does. And if you're both bad about leaving clutter around, then make a trip to IKEA or Target and figure out better storage solutions. A handful of Command hooks and some cube storage units can work wonders.
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- LindaLv 72 months ago
I think your girlfriend is set in her ways and doesn't want to change and no amount of talking will help her understand how you feel. The only recourse you have is to break up or try counseling as a last attempt to help her see the error of her ways. If she refuses that, I'd be looking for the nearest exit out of there.