Why does it bother my parents that I DON'T want to get?
I am a 24 year old female, I just finished college, I want to focus on my career & maybe go back to school for further study...I think I may be asexual because i just never had an interest in this..my parents just can't accept that i don't want to get married. I asked if they want me to be miserable & their reply was "OK I want peace & quiet so you can stop talking now.." The conversation always ends in this & I said back something awful "If you guys can't accept me for who I am then I may start distancing myself & be around people who love me for who I am" I just don't understand what is wrong with not wanting to get married...They are very religious but in my religion girls don't have to get married. It must be something else...My parents are miserable together. Do they want me to be miserable?
I never have had an interest to date anyone..I just don't get why my parents are so bothered by this...They obviously don't love me like I thought they did & it hurts so much.
My parents already have 14 grandkids
- Anonymous3 weeks ago
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- FoofaLv 71 month ago
For the time being explain to them that you're too young to get married. But it doesn't take that much ego suppression to just tell them what they want to hear. If you weren't so vocal about your present feelings they'd probably just stop talking about it. So maybe try "You never know..." instead of "I will never..." Any time you talk in absolutes on any issue you're likely to get pushback.
- Anonymous1 month ago
I don’t understand why other people want to get so involved in ones own personal matters. So what if you don’t get married or date etc.... it’s your business. If it makes you happy ....be happy.
- Anonymous1 month ago
Why are they so involved in your life?
Why to make your own adult decisions? MOVE OUT.
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- SeldomSeenLv 41 month ago
Of course they love you. They just think they know what would make you happy. Certainly go on about your life, but tolerate and be patient with your parents. They will get used to your ideas someday, and if they don't, don't let this separate you from them. They won't always be here to love you.
- K8Lv 71 month ago
Getting marriage is a choice, not a requirement.
YOU create the life you want to live so make it enjoyable for yourself.
Your parents may be worried that you will be lonely or they may be worried about what others think or something else along those lines. I would bet it has to do with how much they love you.
Let them talk all they want and then go about making the life you want to live. Just let the anger at them go, they mean well. Most parents are like that. My parents used to worry and say stuff about marriage and kids.
I was not sure I wanted to get married or have kids which worried my parents a lot. I choose to do both, eventually. I have a very happy marriage of 32 years and 2 grown kids who I love dearly and am close with. My life is really good. If I had chosen to remain single and childless I would have had a different and good life as well.
Be open to all possibilities and choose what you want as you go along.
And be loving and patient with your parents. One day they won't be here and you will miss them horribly.
- TjLv 71 month ago
Ignore them. Tell them once the time is right you will, but right now you are still working on your professional future.
- 1 month ago
Many parents want to be grandparents. You're 24 and you may well feel differently about relationships and intimacy in 5-10 years. Or you don't.
- KittenLittleLv 51 month ago
Not wanting to get married is 1 thing, but thinking marriage = miserable is completely something different. Marriage only = miserable if you marry the wrong person. That's why you date. To get to know them, see if you will work in the long term. That's literally the point of dating, but if you have zero interest in getting married, there's nothing wrong with that. They just want you to be happy and well cared for. Parents will be parents, I mean I'm 33 and my mother constantly asks my husband and I when we're having kids. My answer is always, "never". I don't want kids, but that doesn't stop my mom from trying! My older brother and his wife just had a baby and despite my mother knowing I don't like kids, she still hands me a picture of the baby and says, "Isn't he cute?" It just comes to a point where don't get so angry about it. Stand your ground, shrug it off and leave it at that. If they bring it up EVERY conversation, then put your foot down and tell them you're going to talk to them much less if they continue to bring it up. That it isn't helping their cause, that it's going to make you hate the idea on a deeper level. lol
- GypsyfishLv 71 month ago
I know a family that home-schooled their children for religious reasons and to "protect" them from the outside world. Both the girls have moved as far away as they could get- to the other side of the world, literally, to teach English. They have both told their parents that they don't believe in God and they're never going to get married or have children. Their parents are happily married, but too rigid with the kids. It's normal for people to want grandchildren, but most have sense enough not to badger their kids about it. There's really no way to make them happy. You just have to stick with what you want to do.