How to not be bothered by my narcissist ex husband or his new gf as far as him bragging about how much better she is than I am?
My ex husband who put me through hell starting 2 years after we were married when I was 8 mnths pregnant w/ our 1st child and it all spiraled down hill from there. I finally got us out even though his attorney said I abandoned my home bc I got myself and my son who was two at the time of last summer of 2018 out of harms way when he followed me into the garage and opened his trunk to get his bat and told me he was gonna beat the ish out of me. I went home to my parents. We're still there w/ my parents until he finally moves out our house we still have 2gether in march. He's bragging every chance he gets about his new gf who he said "treats him like royalty" to my dad and is beautiful and smarter than I am and doesn't work with special needs children and has a "real job". He never liked me working as an EC Teacher for some reason. A 10 month position to him isn't a real job even if you're a teacher. Anyway my son is 3 now and is talking about how he sleeps in the bed with daddy n brittany when he's with him for visitation and how brittany takes him horseback riding. My ex takes pride in saying "haha everything you wanted us to do as a family, I'm now doing with Brittany. I really was interested in doing all those things, I just didnt want to do them with u". He told me he'd let me meet her and now he's not because he knows I have a lot of dirt on the person he is that he hasn't exhibited yet. He exhibited his personality eventually in front of all my friends and fam.
- Anonymous3 weeks ago
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- FoofaLv 71 month ago
That's whole lot of story telling just to be told "only you can decide to not be bothered". You could go to court to try to stop the co-sleeping (which is weird). You can even ask the court to order that the exchanges of your son are done by a third party so you don't have to see your ex. But you married a jerk, had a child with him, didn't have him arrested when he threaten to kill you...so now this is your reality. Sorry.
- PatriciaLv 71 month ago
I'm not sure why you're all-consumed with your ex and this Brittany chick. Your focus really needs to be on your life and your child's welfare.
Even if your ex is a damn narcissist, i'm sure he loves your son... (believe me, my ex is a sociopath but he'd never bring harm to our child and i realize that).
My ex also called me and said idiotic things to me which weren't very nice, and i would tell him i hope he was having a great day and that I had to go. It made him angry, but so what? He was out of my life. YAY! I moved forward, made a career for myself, i didn't care if he called me names (because his negative talk was all about HIS bitterness and his inner-misery, it wasn't about me at all. it was all about HIM).
You're going to see that, over time if this Brittany sticks around, he's going to start treating her like royalShit too. It's just a matter of time. A leopard doesn't change his spots.
You have more important things to worry about -- yourself, your life, being a good role model for your child.
IGNORE your ex. If you have to talk to him in person or run into him, put on a big smile and tell him it's great to see him (then keep walking). This will really get his goat. And if he calls you acting the fool, just be pleasant and say something positive to him. He won't know how to act! This is what i did with my ex, and he was totally confused.
His mission is to make you feel pissy, but for what? You're out of his life, except for parenting your son until he's 18. And honestly, narcissist or something else, i do not believe he's going to put your son into harm's way.
Take care of YOU.
- Barb OuthereLv 71 month ago
Don't worry about him. When you had the heart and strength to leave him he could not believe that HE could have been at fault, because to him he is perfect, so it must be all your fault. Resents that you might have made him look bad. So he feels justified in hurting you in whatever way you let him.
Let him be, As you know the new woman will eventually see his true colours (once he has her right where he wants her) and may come to you for confirmation she is not crazy thinking these things about a guy who is convinced he is "perfect".
Til then realise he is HER problem now and all this just reminds you what a smart choice leaving him was.
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- 1 month ago
They sound like the sort of people you might want to keep an impressionable child away from. If this guy is how you say he is than his true nature will show eventually and you're better off just getting as far away from him as possible.
- No MercyLv 72 months ago
why are u listening to what he is saying and if u re not but your family is why are they telling everything he says back to u? not a good family u have then. tell them not to talk to your ex and if they do - not to tell u what he said. other than that there is nothing u can do - he is allowed to talk whatever he wants, u do not need to listen to that
- NomLv 52 months ago
hes no longer your husband you cant control what he says because you dont live there
- historyLv 72 months ago
Talk to a counselor about your 3 year old son sleeping in the same bed with his daddy and his daddy's girlfriend. Find out about what child counselors think about that. I don't know the answer. It's worth digging into though.
Ignore anything he has to say unless it's about your son. The rest of his life is no longer your business. And you don't want to be that girl in his bed anymore so there's no reason to be jealous of her. Baseball bat in the trunk of his car and threatening you with it? No. If you need a better lawyer, get one. I suggest you find an intermediary to exchange your son. There's no reason you or your family need to listen to any poison that he spews your way. Still, if you record his insults, testify that he threatened to beat you with a baseball bat in his hands, and has your son in his bed with his lover... you might get the upper hand here.
- glcangLv 72 months ago
Phew! Lots of stuff here to comment on. I think what you need to do is to grieve for the loss of what you thought was possible in that relationship. The truth is , is that if you are emotionally secure within yourself you will not be bothered by anything he does or says . In fact , when you love yourself truly , no one can trigger you . The work is always with ourself. Let him be as nasty as he wants to be as long as your child is safe. Please take the time to sit with yourself and allow the feelings, whatever they may be to be felt. This is part of self love and self care.Emotions that are stuffed or acted out will come back to haunt us.
Your job has nothing to with what he does.
Of course there are practical things that must be done because you share a child..but once you begin to love yourself, the important stuff will become smooth and you’ll attract a man who will respect you.