Is it embarrassing to have a baby at 30? tips to avoid embarrassment for being first time mother?

thanks a lot.

I didn't chose or try not to be pregnant so long, I just didn't find the right guy before. by default. and then with baby so late..

Update:

thanks so much all

and yes i am the oldest mother .. :/ ill get over it i guess.

11 Answers

Relevance
  • Anonymous
    2 months ago
    Favorite Answer

    That really isn't that "late".  Considering that more women are waiting longer to establish education and career before pursuing family interests, you are basically right on track for the current attitude towards starting a family.  You might be a little older than the current average age of a first time mom, but you are certainly not at the extreme end of "old" for "first time".

    Never feel embarrassed.  Everyone has a first time for everything.  Age shouldn't be a factor in something as huge as a first child when the age of the woman is perfectly acceptable for having a child.  (a first child at age 14 would be a huge deal since that is not typically an "acceptable" age.)  The age of 30 is perfectly fine for a first child.

    Now - since you are a little older than many first time moms - don't be afraid to ask questions or seek help if you have uncertainties about anything.  Use whatever resources  you have available - such as your parents or your partners parents.  Don't let anyone make you feel like you should know something just because of your age.  Age alone does not give wisdom.  Experience and seeking out answers gives wisdom.  If you don't feel comfortable asking people - then find GOOD internet sources to get your questions answered.  If the advice on the internet sounds extreme or radical, then find better sources.  (for example, be careful on sources for researching vaccinations.  That is a hot topic with a lot of BAD advice floating around.)  

    Never feel embarrassed for deciding to plan a family in the RIGHT order.  A stable relationship with someone you WANT to have children with is extremely important.  

    Good luck and Congrats on your family!

    • Login to reply the answers
  • 1 month ago

    In what world would that be embarrassing, and why?

    • Login to reply the answers
  • Edna
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Why do you think it would be "embarrassing" to have a baby at age 30?  Around age 30 is the age at which a large percentage of women today are choosing to have their first baby. 

    • Login to reply the answers
  • sarah
    Lv 4
    1 month ago

    I don't think it's embarrassing at all. That's actually the age that I always thought I would have my first...but of course, when we plan, God laughs, and a "whoopsie" at 26 led me to now be a 28-year-old with a baby girl who just turned seven months. But I digress... :)

    I actually have a friend who was almost 40 before she had her first baby. I don't remember anyone thinking it was weird; they were too busy being excited for her. Personally, I think you were super smart to wait. Better to have all your ducks in a row than to just jump the gun and have a baby because you're concerned about other people's opinions.

    Congrats on your pregnancy!! :)

    • Login to reply the answers
  • How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer.
  • 1 month ago

    I had my second child at 31.

    • Login to reply the answers
  • 1 month ago

    30 is not late.

    • Login to reply the answers
  • Suzy Q
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    That's not late, that's pretty average. 

    • Login to reply the answers
  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    No.  It's a fairly average age.  Slightly young, but not embarrassingly so.

    • Login to reply the answers
  • MissA
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Yeah, you're basically the oldest mother on record.

    • ...Show all comments
    • amy1 month agoReport

      Just because you are not a teenager or in your 20s doesn't mean you are old 

    • Login to reply the answers
  • 2 months ago

    Not embarrassing at all.

    • Login to reply the answers
Still have questions? Get your answers by asking now.