How can I deal with stress over newborn?
I’m a first time mom and sometimes I get too stressed, either about breastfeeding, not knowing what to do for my baby when she’s crying, lack of sleep is a big one. When will she sleep through the night? What can I do to not feel as stressed?
- TomalochkLv 62 months ago
Don't let the toddler watch latenite television or be on the internet too late in the day ....also absolutely no smartphone after 6 pm .Source(s): I have watched TV shows about stuff
- Anonymous2 months ago
others did it, why can't you?
your problem isn't really that unique, you know
- PatriciaLv 72 months ago
Just realize that you're going to lose sleep and have a child to take care of. Put that into your mind, and accept it. Take naps during the day when the baby is asleep or see if you can have someone come over to help you a couple days a week so you can get rest during the day. This could be helpful
Babies sleep through the night when they do. My first baby slept through the night at 2 weeks old, the second one? Six months old.
- LizBLv 72 months ago
You get through it one day at a time, or sometimes just one hour at a time. Just know that it WILL get easier. Someday, baby won't need to eat so often. Someday, she won't be waking up every 3 hours or less. Someday, she won't demand to be held every second of the day. Someday, she'll start smiling, laughing, and showing her little personality and ways that amaze you and make it seem like it's all worth it. Someday, all of that any more will happen... for now, don't worry about anything more than getting through today.
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- Anonymous2 months ago
For breastfeeding - have your doctor recommend a lactation specialist or find one for yourself. Having someone who is an expert on the subject to give you advice and guide you can be a great help. This will greatly relieve that specific stress.
Sleeping all night is different for every infant. Some will do it sooner than others. Sometimes it will go in phases. At about three months is typically a starting point for sleeping all night with some infants doing it sooner and others later. Also, even when a baby has started sleeping all night - they might hit another phase with night time needs becoming an issue again. This will likely be an ongoing pattern until the baby is about one year old. (teething is a big one that sometimes causes a baby to start waking in the night again.)
When the baby is crying - go through the basic check list -
1. is baby hungry - if the baby just ate or is refusing to nurse - then hunger isn't the issue
2. does the baby need to burp - gas on the tummy can cause a baby to cry
3. does the baby need changed
4. Is the baby too hot or cold. Feel the back of the baby's neck. If it is sweaty and clammy - the baby is too hot - remove a layer of cover or clothing. If it is cold - then add a layer of cover or clothing.
5. Is the baby running a fever or showing any other signs of being sick - this kind of goes with #4 on checking to see if the baby is too hot or cold. If you have doubts about the baby's temperature - it is always fine to do an actual check with a thermometer. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/infan...
White noise calms some babies. My sister-in-law discovered that the sound of her sweeper calmed her infant. She ended up ruining three sweepers during the first few months with her baby using them as white noise to help the baby sleep. Google search "white noise for babies" for tips on things to try.
If you have tried everything you can think of and the baby is still crying then all you can really do is try to hold and comfort the baby. The hardest thing at this point is trying not to become stressed yourself. YOU NEED TO TRY TO STAY CALM. If you are stressed, your baby senses that stress and that can sometimes add to the reason the baby is crying. Have you ever seen a mother with a crying baby and the grandparent takes the baby and the baby stops crying. It is NOT because the baby likes grandma more than mommy. It is because the mother was stressed and the grandmother wasn't. This won't work every time because sometimes babies just cry. But sometimes they are reacting to your stress.
As for sleep for yourself - try to sleep when the baby does. If you have anyone - a partner or spouse or parent - that can take a "shift" of watching the baby to let you catch some sleep - be sure to ask for that help. If you don't have any support, then do what you can to catch naps every time the baby does whenever that is possible. Basic house work can wait until the baby is older. Do only things that MUST be kept done.
- Pearl LLv 72 months ago
i would just try to enjoy your new baby, wish i had one at my place