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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 2 months ago

What's the difference between normal sexual curiosity and a child abusing another child?

Do you think a 13 year old boy repeatedly touching an 11 year old girl (and her not participating back) is sexual abuse or just him being curious?

I'm wondering because he is 13 and therefore a child as well. How do we know if his behaviors are abusive? Will this harm the girl? No hate please!

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  • 2 months ago
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    if she is not participating, there's a good chance she's uncomfortable or confused about the situation. either way - that's really bad. it's perfectly normal for a 13 year old boy to touch himself and have sexual thoughts, however an 11 year old girl still has some years to go before sexual maturity so it's very unlikely that she's ready for those explorations.

    You say "is sexual abuse or just him being curious" which kind of disregards the girl's feelings. It doesn't matter if he's just being curious or not if she feels violated.However - it's very important to remember that where the line is drawn is probably not up to you. If you are not the parent of both of these children, then you have to assume that parents would prefer their children not be exploring each other and you should put a stop to it. worst-case scenario, you stopped two kids from something harmless, big whoop, best case, you save a little girl from a scary situation. 

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  • Tj
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    This is a little of both. He is entering puberty, so he is getting out of control. Keep them away from each other, the boy's father needs to be told about this.

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  • 2 months ago

    he shouldnt be touching her at all, thats abuse

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  • 2 months ago

    Touching her how? And children of 13 can be sexually abusive, not that I'm saying he is. Sounds like you need to have a discussion about what is appropriate touching and what isn't. Talk to the young girl. Is she uncomfortable with his behavior?

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  • Jerry
    Lv 6
    2 months ago

    At 13 most of us have an innate sense of right and wrong because of how we were raised. If he's reached puberty, he KNOWS what's right and wrong re: touching the opposite sex... She was either flabbergasted or afraid to stop him. At that age, "abuse" is too strong a term, but a really HARD face to face about the facts are certainly in order.

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