Why do people never take responsibility for the things they do or say?
I’m looking at my marriage, it is failing. My husband has been cheating on me for a while now and it’s my own fault. I have one of those controlling mothers. I did not realize it until my late 20s. her siblings who helped raise me since she was always traveling were doing it as long as she kept sending money. she forced people to do things for her money, eventually they grew to resent her. And started doing nasty things. by the time I realized all this I was getting married to someone she didn’t want because. I still don’t know to this day if these things are true but I heard that she did voodoo to destroy our relationship. She tries to help us, but things just keep going to worse. she gave me the idea that he was cheating (through fortune telling)and that was the reason why things were bad between us. That they say our marriage will never work. I accused him for years, the truth is when I look back I can say we loved each other. we both had controlling mothers that guided our choices. and they made us do, say or think bad things of each other. Eventually he ended up detaching emotionally, and abusing me financially. he actually is cheating now and he is so involved with the other one he only wants to leave. And when I reminded her of the cheating accusations And according to her I don’t listen to her advice and when things get bad I blame it on her or others. I know when my own decisions lead to something bad, but I also know when people influence me to do things.
- FoofaLv 73 weeks ago
You, with your superstitious beliefs that shift the blame from yourself to magic, would be a chief offender of this not taking responsibility. Sounds like you come from a crazy family and you married the first fool you met just to stick it to your "controlling" mother. So of course your marriage isn't working out. Get into therapy to work on your own unhealthy thinking. Through that process you'll come to be able to identify whether this marriage is worth trying to save or not.
- historyLv 73 weeks ago
You tell us this is your own fault and that you are taking responsibility for the choices you made. Congratulations! No point in blaming the Moms then. File for divorce. Be tough about it. This is no time to tuck your tail. But if your husband "wants to leave", throw open the door.
You've come to realize that the two of you loved each other. Maybe, set free to his own devices, he'll come to the same conclusion. Or he won't. Time to find out.
- RPLv 73 weeks ago
If you honestly believe that you are responsible for him cheating, then you are helping him avoid responsibility for his action and, as a result, reinforcing his inclination to cheat rather than be faithful to you. In essence, you are making possible what you feel others are doing... specifically, you provide an excuse for him to avoid responsibility for something that is clearly a choice HE has made.
- Anonymous3 weeks ago
If you believe in voodoo you have issues which Yahoo Answers can't solve.
I tend not to believe third parties when it comes to my marriage.
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- Ace ShortyLv 73 weeks ago
I don't think voodoo destroyed your marriage, you listened to your mother and that destroyed it. Maybe you should try talking to your husband, apologize and give him so much sex that he won't want to go back to the other female.
- Chae-wonLv 43 weeks ago
There are too many moving parts and manipulations. Too dangerous issues and why confront her, why? You already knew about it.
- Anonymous3 weeks ago
They do not want to have to be responsible for their actions.
Atheists are the worst here. You say your mom has even being doing very evil voodoo.
Without GOD they cannot feel any LOVE at all! For real LOVE comes only from and with GOD! How about Praying to GOD about this and doing this each day?
- 3 weeks ago
Because we are human that what we do