Anonymous asked in Arts & HumanitiesPhilosophy · 4 weeks ago

How is love not exclusionary by nature ?

Especially in the case of Romantic Love where you put the feelings, emotions, and well being of one person above everyone else.

If one person or group of people is “special” what does that make everyone else?

9 Answers

  • 4 weeks ago

    It's human love and not actual love. Actual love considers everyone and everything. Human love is twisted with natural selection and reproduction.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Love is always exclusionary.  It creates a priority order wherein the well-being of those you love is more important in your eyes than the well-being of those you do not.  That is most true of romantic love, but true of all other forms also.

    But then, it is also true of all other forms of loyalty or affection.  You will always prioritise a friend over an acquaintance, an acquaintance over someone you do not know, etc.  National or other forms of group loyalty mean that members of a group you identify strongly with get priority over members of groups you are averse to or neutral towards.  you will always feel most for those you identify with most strongly.

    We humans have a massive and very complicated social system wherein we prioritise each other.  Romantic Love is simply the pinnacle of a very tall pyramid.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Less.  Not worthy.  Of relatively no account.

    In Christianity,  not many understand or follow this principle. 

    Jesus taught 'born again', at which point you left blood family.

    Most wars do boil down to power families.

    Wars have been fought between clans,  countries(patriotic). 

    The Jews had much talent but this remained in the family.

    Outsiders were excluded. 

    Born again is free from all that, but hated then by those groups.

    In Christian marriage,  we become one, so we don't think us/you.

    We hope to invite you to join us.

    In this way, Christianity is unique. 

  • 4 weeks ago

    Monogamous relationships relationships exclude the whole world except one person. But that's not all love. Some people are polygamous or polyamorous.

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  • j153e
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    If daddy and mommy love each other, that doesn't necessarily exclude mommy and daddy as a unit of mutual lovers extending love to their children, parents, etc....e.g., by daddy lovingly putting his arm around mommy, etc.--which love vibration is clear to the more fresh, childlike perception. 

    Love per se is the dynamic harmony of Oneness.  Even as there is One Mind Soul, so there are varying interests among the Saints (the picture of all saints playing one instrument is perhaps often a feckless or even misleading portrait of heaven, which is both more dynamic and loving than that of embodied humankind).  One Saint may share her love of immortelles with another Saint who loves roses; if a Saint is profoundly interested in music of the spheres (which is composed of the "reflected" treasures in heaven of Saints and other Beings), and another Saint is more interested in the grander lessons of starry bodies, there may be a lesser intersect of sharing.

    Thus, while there is One Mind Soul, there are various Confucian-like specializations as heavenly interests are by various Saints and Beings infinitely expressed, developed, and realized.

    The earthly function of one male organ and one female organ as developed process of pro-creation, i.e., providing early physical temple for an incoming soul, is understood to be very bonding, e.g. per oxytocin-reinforced intimacy.  What is less clearly understood about physical sexual intercourse is that each of the partners' inner children is reexperiencing a type of joy of embodiment during sexual intercourse.  It is the case that marriage is a very early expression of how human use of the kundalini energies is to be channeled.  The focus of one's inner Child-Light and its blending with another's, for a journey until they "drop their physical bodies," is more rewarding as karmic lesson when one "specializes" in a particular Other.  The two share self-actualization and self-realization, the joy of love beyond sex, and of graciously providing for children they thus love.

    It is worth noting that the increase of child abuse co-relates to the turn of society from a more positive expression of divine love in marriage.  It is overwhelmingly the case that if one is not Self-realized, and self-actualizing in a gainful sacred labor or vocation, that dysfunctionality of self and of other is even multiplied, a la Solomon's "all is vanity" per serial and "merely" oxytocin-fueled feelings.  At some or another point, the Godly soul may suffer Enlightenment's substitution of "ye shall not surely be obscured" and enter into a "material girl in a material Alice-in-Wonderland maze of psychic trinkets and baubles," of which some one asked, "What does it profit, if the soul, or inner Child, is not?" 

    For Couples Only;

    Finding a Higher Love;

    Love and Sexuality by Omraam Aivanhov.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Sure it is, but so what? You can't have feelings for everyone.

    You can't love everyone equally, agree to have sex with everyone

    in the whole world. Especially someone you have never met.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Doesn't change everyone else in your eyes. But, like after a big meal, your need for love is fulfilled and you're not open for new business.

  • small
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    Insightful question !

    Indeed love is exclusionary by nature as its need to focus on one narrows down our perspective for the benefit of the beloved, so that from a wider perspective it would be limited in range and reach although far more pointed and poignant.

  • Anonymous
    4 weeks ago

    You misunderstand how the philosophical  "exclusion principle" is applied to the concept love. It has absolutely nothing to do with specific relationships. Instead it has to do with the definition of love itself.  A proper definition will account for everyone and not leave anyone out. For example, if you define romantic love as only applying to monogamous relationships, then you've EXCLUDED polygamous relationships as if loving two people were an impossibility. That is the essence of the exclusionary principle.  

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