My Bf told me I am self centered Why?
We are both in the 30s. I want to get married but I am not in rush for it so I told my Boyfriend that we can get engaged first? He told me his not ready for it so I told him fine? I will wait until you are ready to propose to me. And he told me I just self centered. I just feel hurt when he said that too me. We love each other so much.. I don't know what wrong with him? Need advice please.
- BrianLv 74 weeks agoFavorite Answer
Why is he still with you if he does not wish to see the relationship advance and move forward? This makes no sense to me. Yes before actual marriage you should be engaged to test a true commitment towards each other but I don't see how you are self centered here. You're very lovely, i would think he would want to solidify things with you.
- LP7Lv 74 weeks ago
Guess what? Maybe he doesn't want to get married to you
- keerokLv 74 weeks ago
Time to find a new boyfriend.
- CrustyCurmudgeonLv 74 weeks ago
Time for a come to Jesus moment. Lay out what you want from the relationship: Commitment, monogamy, children or not, equal say in a relationship, security, loving treatment, and consistent emotional availability, or whatever your goals are. Lay those out and ask him if that matches his relationship aspirations. If they match, ask where's the ring. If not, work through it and if he is not in accord with your litmus tests, suggest you date other people.
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- Anonymous4 weeks ago
Then break up with him and date an ex con instead.
- GypsyfishLv 74 weeks ago
He doesn't love you "so much". He's controlling, and expects you to make all the compromises and adjustments. If you wait for him to propose, you'll have a long wait. Find someone who is just desperate to be with you.