Anonymous
Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 2 weeks ago

How do I convince boyfriend we should have kids?

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months now. I’m desperate to have a baby, but he’s reluctant because he already has 8 kids from other relationships. That’s not my fault. He’s older than me. I’m 20 and he’s 43. How can he want me to be miserable because of his past mistakes? I keep crying. How do I convince him to have a baby with me? Please help 😔

46 Answers

Relevance
  • 1 week ago

    You're 20 and crying because one man won't have a kid with you? Do you know how many men there are in the world?

  • 1 week ago

    Why so you want to have a baby with someone that already has 8 of them? Sure make them more miserable just so YOU'RE satisfied... Honestly I wouldn't want someone like you so you might as well leave him. You're saving a lot of hurt feelings.

  • 1 week ago

    Tell him its the best sex he'll ever have.

  • Anonymous
    1 week ago

    you need to move on to e new BF 

    you are reasonable but you will never be happy with him

  • How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer.
  • 1 week ago

    Let him be he has his reasons and forget it 20 is too young for a baby you as a possible mother don't understand housing, medical, clothing and food you can't learn as you go talking about a baby 

  • 1 week ago

    What?  Eight kids and he needs another.  He is too old and you need real love with real guys.  Find a decent man,  date for awhile and do not place a kid above your piece of mind.  Please remember you can do it and enjoy.  Please don't get pregnant but when you are loved.  Don't give your life away.

  • GB
    Lv 5
    1 week ago

    You refer to his other  kids as 'past mistakes'.  If you  talk him round, or get pregnant 'accidentally on purpose ,  in nine months  he will have made another mistake. 

    • Luke
      Lv 7
      1 week agoReport

      Her child deserves a father who will love him, not a father who will think of him as his 9th mistake.

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    I learned something about desperation. Being desperate can create mistakes, so you might become another statistic.

    He already has 8 kids. There are men who don't even have 1 kid.

    I don't know why you are interested in reproducing with an older man, so quickly.

    I am an adult male, and I don't have any kids. I don't have a girlfriend, or wife. I chose to live my life differently than other folks.

    • Anna
      Lv 5
      1 week agoReport

      I agree Linda. I said why SHE wants a baby it doesn't mean she should. 

  • Lita
    Lv 6
    2 weeks ago

    You don't. You aren't old enough and mature enough to have a child when you ask questions like this you prove it. When you call his children past mistakes you prove it. You need to actually grow up and become an adult before you take on the responsibility of bringing a child into this world.

  • ron h
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    Start with marrying him.  If he's got ANY kids, he knows that "single motherhood" is a terrible thing for kids.  AND If you want his little bastard, he should be running away from you. 

Still have questions? Get your answers by asking now.