D asked in Food & DrinkEntertaining · 1 month ago

Is it rude to have friends pay for surprise party?

I am having a surprise party for my girlfriend at a private room in a restaurant. It’s buffet style that is 25$ per person.  

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  • 1 month ago

    No I don't think it is

  • 1 month ago

    I don't think it is rude but, If you invite them you should care for them the price is okay to them. I they said they want to come the party. They should pay.

  • Glo
    Lv 5
    1 month ago

    No one should be forced to pay to attend a party. 

  • 1 month ago

    Call your people and ask what they CAN afford.

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  • 1 month ago

    Yes that is rude.Have the size and kind of party you can pay for.

  • 1 month ago

    YES

    You do not invite people to a party then ask them to pay for it. 

    Invite as many as you can afford to host. You might want to scale it down and have a small dinner at home.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    It's pretty tacky to invite people to a party and expect them to pay to attend.   It's even more tacky when it's a gift-giving occasion like a birthday party. 

    If you and your friends want to agree to meet for dinner at a certain time/place to celebrate your gf's birthday, that's fine.  You can all agree to go Dutch and there's nothing wrong with that.   But that's not the same thing as throwing her a surprise party and inviting guests. 

  • 1 month ago

    You will come off as cheap and less people will come and the ones who do show up will feel put off by it. 

  • 1 month ago

    I wouldn't do that. If you want to throw a surprise party for your gf, then YOU should pay for it. t shows you really care and that she is worth it. Having friends pay could make it be seen as something that you didn't really very hard to do. I think you should pay for it.

  • 1 month ago

    If you want an expensive party for your gf, it's up to you to pay for it. I realize it's not uncommon for people to do these things but it means there will be people who can't afford to go and people who will resent having to pay $25 just for a party.

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