Is my boyfriend going to break up with me?
So recently my boyfriend invited me to go to Cancun with him about two weeks prior to when he plans to go. He is a pilot and he stated that having a girlfriend who could go on these trips with him is very important to him. We have been dating for seven months and I have already had to turn down two trip opportunities due to conflicts with school. My education is important to me and it is hard to put myself in a position to jeopardize it. I am a 19 yo in college by the way; he is a 20 yo. We had a talk yesterday and he stated to me that he is in a dilemma because he really loves me but he wants a girlfriend who he can do these things with.
I told him that I am willing to go on trips with him but if he wants me to go, we have to plan these trips together with consideration to both of our schedules and that we need to plan a few more weeks in advance, especially when it involves going out of the country. Typically, he notifies me of these trip plans two weeks in advance and it doesn't give me much time to prepare.
However, in reply, he said that it is hard because he is only informed of these trip opportunities on a whim so we would not be able to plan ahead in the time frame that I proposed.
I really love him but I don't know where we stand right now. He said he needs some time to "reflect" and I believe he is contemplating breaking up with me.
Am I a bad girlfriend for being unable to go on these trips with him? Did he truly love me if he breaks up with me over this?
- gLv 71 month agoFavorite Answer
He might, and there's not one thing you can do. No you're not a bad girlfriend if you're not able to go at a moment's notice. And no, if he breaks up with you over this it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It means at this point in time your respective schedules and responsibilities aren't compatible. It does happen. He'll find that few people can drop everything [work included] to jet off for several days on a whim. No way should you consider dropping school to accommodate his work schedule at this point in time. Get your education!
- historyLv 71 month ago
What is this licensed 20 yo pilot flying in and out of Mexico on a "whim" that he's only notified of no more than two weeks previously?
You two have only been dating for 7 months. You are a 19 year old college student (good) and how much he "truly loves" you need be taken with a grain of salt at this point in your life anyway.
He wants a party girl friend and that isn't your goal in life (good). He's going to make his own decisions but I urge you to NOT endanger your education for him and his short excursions.
- TealLv 71 month ago
If he can't support your goals and respect your priorities, then you two aren't compatible and he isn't in love. Your education would be important to him if he was committed to you and wanted a future with you. He is just interested in short term fun. I think your relationship has ran its course.
- JLv 71 month ago
who knows if he is not happy because you are busy at school then let him go !!