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Is it really that bad to move every year if you have an autistic child? People in the military do it but doctors say it is bad to do that.?

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    What is difficult is not to change schools, but to have gaps in service provision. Every move means new doctors, new social services agencies, new benefits, new neighborhoods, new police, all kinds of changes that can seriously impact any disabled child, but moreso most autistic children.

    My son has Down stndrome and we moved quite a bit. Each move meant school changes where only half the time the first school placement was where he stayed. Each time we had to interface with police so they would u derstand the level of independence he enjoyed. Each time meant new caregivers, some better than others. New friends or at times no friends.

    I dont regret moving him around so much, but each move had its challenges complicated by his disability related needs.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Here's the thing...there are varying degrees and types of autism. It's called the Autism Spectrum. [See source.] And within that spectrum we find autistic behavior that is barely noticeable at the mild end all the way up to severe conditions where the person is pretty much dysfunctional and needs institutional care.

    Those who have mild autism symptoms would likely have little or no objections or adverse effects to moving often. I personally know an Asperger's kid who has moved around a bit and he's now on the university's governing body and about to graduate from a prestigious university in Oregon. Unless you've been around him for a long time, you'd never know he had that mild autism.

    I think the best answer, as it is based on the specific person, is to check with the autistic's MD. Get a medical opinion from the person who knows the autistic patient.

    Source(s): Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a neurological and developmental disorder that begins early in childhood and lasts throughout a person's life. It affects how a person acts and interacts with others, communicates, and learns. It includes what used to be known as Asperger syndrome and pervasive developmental disorders.
    • Nebulous
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      4 weeks agoReport

      As someone with 'mild autism symptoms' I'd have to disagree, I moved several times when I was a child, leaving behind friends, support, and would take at least half the school year to feel settled again. Moving house is one of the most stressful life events without adding autism into the mix.

  • 4 weeks ago

    it depends on the kid, kids with autism often have an issue with change. different homes, different people, different schools...its hard to transfer schools when the child needs special education services or even just a 504 plan (in the US)....different schools may have different approaches (ie ABA v Miller V Greenspan, etc)....and some districts will be against some methods and try to shove all kids into the method that is best for the district.

    OF COURSE CHANGING SCHOOLS IS DIFFICULT, new environment, new routines, new sounds, new people...

    at least when a child moves up through the same school, there is familiarity, sure the kids eventually adapt, some are fine quickly, others take longer...when they at least have the same home to go to afterwards it helps.

  • Nancy
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    4 weeks ago

    I don't think doctors say that. In fact, doctors say that while change is difficult for autistic kids, it's good for them because it exposes them to new things and helps them learn. A symptom of autism is a strong resistance to change, but parents who do not push back against that reticence are allowing their child to stifle their own growth and fall further down the spectrum as autistic behaviors become positively reinforced. 

    High-functioning autism in adults is more often accomplished though applying the methods of cognitive behavioral therapy while those adults are still children by continually finding ways to expose the autistic child to new things and gently but firmly pushing back against their strong inclination to fall into a strict routine and never try new things or be exposed to new things.

    My brother and my cousin both have classic autism, the most severe autism on the spectrum.  Both of them moved when they were children.  It wasn't traumatic for either one because their wheres aren't very important to them, nor are their whos.  The things they very much don't like changed are their whats and their whens, their stuff and their schedules, but when you move, they still have the same stuff and can have the same schedule, still get up at 7:15, still brush their teeth at 7:20, still start eating their cereal out of their favorite bowl at 7:24, and so forth, and so long as their bed and dresser and toy box and so forth were arranged the same way in their room, to them it was the same room as before.  The devil's in the details, not the broad strokes.  Neither Brad nor Matt seemed to even register that the house was different or that the neighbors were different, much less care.

    • Nancy
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      4 weeks agoReport

      I must've typo'd and autocorrect changed it to "reticence." Thanks.

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  • Lili
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    4 weeks ago

    Many autistics have a great deal of difficulty handling a change in routine, in what they are familiar with, so of course for them, frequent moves would be very difficult and traumatic.

    Other autistics would adjust rather better, but they are likely to be the very high-functioning ones.

    If you have an autistic child and have to move often, you should talk to specialists about how best to help your child cope.

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