Darius asked in HealthMen's Health · 3 weeks ago

Personal hygiene on a 12 year old (slightly TMI)?

Went to my 12 year old's yearly check up. Apparently he's not washing down there, he's uncircumcised, and has a build up of smegma down there and it was pointed out.

Brought it up with the DH and he tried to bring it up after and explained the importance of keeping it clean but he's very embarrassed/doesn't want to talk about it. Any tips for going about it without it being too embarrassing/intrusive?

5 Answers

  • Mark
    Lv 4
    3 weeks ago
    Best Answer

    Have a chat with him about the importance of hygiene - and how necessary it is to clean carefully, thoroughly all the way through puberty. It actually can get stronger (the smell), as he matures, so daily showers and cleaning is vital. Explain that the groin is the hottest part of the body, followed by armpits. Lastly, let him know that girls really appreciate a boy who is super clean and conscious of B.O. If he says he's not into girls, he will be soon enough.

  • don r
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    Maybe more embarrassment is what it will take to get through to him.

  • 3 weeks ago

    the price you / him pay by not circumcising

  • Josie
    Lv 6
    3 weeks ago

    Sounds like this DH is trying to sell surgery.

    Smegma is there for a reason.

    Most boys of 12 masturbate. Often in the bath

    or shower. That is quite sufficient hygiene.

    Of course he is embarrassed to talk about it.

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  • 3 weeks ago

    let him know it is natural to have an accumulation of dead skin cells otherwise known as smegma. then tell him while he bathes to rinse what he sees with water, and not to use soap as it can irritate the foreskin and dry it out. let him know he can use soap on the shaft just not the tip or head as it's not proper for that tissue as it needs to stay moist. everything under the foreskin is self-cleaning so soap is not needed. goodluck and if he doesnt want to talk about it yet give him some time, children are very sensitive of their bodies

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