Anonymous
Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 1 month ago

Why do parents deserve respect but children/teens don’t?

It seems like it’s perfectly fine for parents to disrespect their teenagers and kids but it’s not fine for teenagers and kids to disrespect their parents?? That’s absolute bs. 

Parents are controlling manipulative snakes who like bossing their kids around and deciding for themselves what they do and don’t deserve. They all suck. 

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  • Edna
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    Your parents provide you with the roof over your head, with your clothes, with your food, and with all your "necessary" electronic devices. YOU provide nothing!!

    Your parents are in absolute legal control of everything you do, until you're 18. That's why they're "controlling and manipulative snakes" and boss you around - because they're legally allowed to do so.. Deal with it, kid; and maybe some day you'll earn some "respect" from your parents.

  • P.L.
    Lv 6
    4 weeks ago

    There actually IS a pecking order in life. If that were not so life, for everyone, would be chaos. Children need to know that, when young, they must respect their elders e.g. parents, other older relatives, teachers, people who provide services e.g. shop keepers, bus drivers etc. If no-one respected others it would be a horrible life on this earth.

    The respect rules change as we age and as we enter the workplace. We must obey the adults with whom we interact on a daily basis as that makes life pleasant for all. Eventually the young become adults and then they receive the respect (we hope) that adults should receive. When children show no respect to their elders they will live a very bad life and will become very unpleasant adults who will attract friends who are just like themselves and will then have a shock when everyone in that group shows no respect for each other as they will all believe that THEY THEMSELVES are the one most deserving the respect of the others in the group.

    Accept that there is a pecking order in life and respect all your elders unless or until they do something that shows you, absolutely, that they do not deserve your respect. If that happens you then need to discuss the matter with either your parents, a caring/helpful neighbour, a school teacher, vicar or whoever you feel you can confide in. If you go about things the right way you will find it easy to ask for help from such people but if you choose to go through life in a disrespectful, belligerent way you will find very little (if any) sympathy and help being available at your time of real need and you will, probably, find it very difficult to hold down (or even obtain) a job when you need one.

    Accept that you are 'the younger/junior person' at this point in time - just as your elders once were, and your time WILL COME. If you accept your place in life right now you will end up a far nicer, more likeable person when you are of the age where YOU will expect some respect from YOUR juniors.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Okay... don't start shooting up schools.. You were not born with manners, calm the hell down. We gotta start somewhere. 

    • P.L.
      Lv 6
      4 weeks agoReport

      Shooting up schools seems to be an American thing. I have never heard of this happening in the U.K. though that does not mean it has never happened. Guns are not so easy to obtain here, which is a very good thing.

  • 4 weeks ago

    This really depends, if the child is being a brat and disrespecting their parents then yeah in this case they need to be disciplined and this is not disrespectful at all. If the parent is telling their child that they're stupid or worthless or something like that then that needs to be reported to child services because that's abuse. However parents should always treat their children with respect, it shows them that they should always treat other people the way they want to be treated. Besides that being disrespectful to your kids teaches them that It's ok to disrespect other people because they do learn from the way their parents behave. Also disrespecting your kids, especially for stupid reasons makes them more likely to become self harmers or bully other kids in school which is never good. By the way when you said that parents are snake who want to control their kids, you sounded immature and naive, no offense.

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  • 1 month ago

    I agree with the 1st part of your statement! Respect is something that is earned and a priveliage, it's not a right, and you shouldn't be given respect just because one holds a certain label. I disagree about the 2nd one though! Most parents are not "snakes", and the way you worded it makes you come off as completley immature and naive.

  • 1 month ago

    It's because the parents have the responsibility for providing for their children and making the decisions for the family. Children (including teens) don't have the maturity to make healthy and appropriate choices for themselves. They rarely have the mental or emotional maturity to do so.

  • 1 month ago

    Many parents are too controlling and disrespectful and sometimes even overuse and abuse corporal punishment, groundings, etc. True. But, you have to remember that respect is earned not demanded and it works both ways. If the teen-young adult behaves like a little brat and is rude and saucy to the parents, they DO NOT deserve respect, but punishment.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    No, not ALL parents are like that, but I agree with what you say.

  • 1 month ago

    Said like a bratty child that needs to be controlled

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    As long as you are not being mentally physically or sexually abused and loved unconditionally, keep your mouth shut and do as you are told, some people don't have parents.

    • P.L.
      Lv 6
      4 weeks agoReport

      Gabriele, the free thinking cannot kick in until the child has lived long enough to understand life, discipline, manners, respect for others and the 'pecking order' etc.

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