Why can't Americans live with parents until they get married?
Why is it that Americans don't follow customs like other countries where people live with parents in the family home until they marry? I don't understand it.
- LizBLv 71 month agoBest Answer
Because culturally we consider important milestones of adulthood to include moving out on your own and being self-supporting, and it's a milestone you should achieve before marriage. For women it's important so that they don't wind up financially reliant on husbands, and for men it's important so that they don't go from expecting Mommy to do everything for them to expecting Wifey to do everything for them. Most of the cultures you're referring to have rigidly defined gender roles within marriage, so the couple is less likely to value equality and partnership within marriage because they haven't been raised to expect or even want it.
- PeriferalistLv 71 month ago
They can. It's up to the families.
- CandelabrumLv 61 month ago
They can. They can do whatever they want.
- PatriciaLv 71 month ago
I didn't particularly want to live with my parents until i got married. I didn't need to be monitored by mommy until i was 27.
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- PearlLv 71 month ago
cause they dont want to
- RickyLv 61 month ago
I don't think that's the norm anymore like back in the 90s where everyone could afford an apartment. Im 27 and single with no gf. Still live in my parents house. I came back after college with alot of debt cuz I wanted to live in my own but dam it's so expensive out there. My parents don't mind me living with them but I need to contribute something at least . I think if I do ever find a girl to make a family with than yea I'll try and move out
- 1 month ago
I thought that they could??
- ?Lv 61 month ago
I wonder how much of it has to do with homeowners wanting to rent rooms.
Another is upper middle class started wanting to make marriage something only they get. Turning young people into losers for living at home made them unmarriageable.
- Trump 2020Lv 71 month ago
Plenty DO. In fact, some couples live with parents even AFTER marriage.
Not in MY house though.
- Anonymous1 month ago
It’s because American have enough money to move out. They don’t need to live with family, it's nice to visit them but I like my own life.