Eric M
Lv 4
Eric M asked in Food & DrinkEntertaining · 2 months ago

Want to throw a wedding anniversary party, but a larger one similar to a wedding. Thinking about charging admission?

For some background, because I already cringed when typing CHARGING admission.

So I want to throw a party for my wife and my wedding anniversary. Instead of doing something small with 20-30 people at the house, I was thinking about getting a small hall, open bar, and buffet catering and invite like 50-60 people. Friends, family, and even some +1's. I like to host, and have a good time.

However, this easily will cost more than double, and I am not looking to profit or even break even on the party. I would assume that I can collect the difference of my house party and hall party by "asking" for a $20 "donation" to come to the party.

My plan is definitely to talk to the majority of guarenteed invitees and see if they would have a problem with it so I don't get any bad tastes from people, let alone I won't actually be tracking if people pay, which still sits me with the bill I know I am going to have.

So all in all, is there a way I can approach this? Maybe when sending official invitations, I can mention that I will accept any financial donations towards the party?

Please and Thanks


I understand the whole tacky part of it, I am basically saying how do I throw a party and charge admission. I don't necessarily care that it is celebrated in my honor. I want to throw a large party that everyone will enjoy.

11 Answers

  • 3 weeks ago

    When you invite people to a party you do not charge them.

    If you can not afford the party for 50 to 60 people then don't have a big party.

    Invite as many as you can afford to host.

    Or...Have an open house at your place serve cocktails and appetizers. People can come and go as they please. Set the hours for example from 6 to 8 pm.

  • 1 month ago

    "I understand the whole tacky part of it, I am basically saying how do I throw a party and charge admission. I don't necessarily care that it is celebrated in my honor. I want to throw a large party that everyone will enjoy."

    Except that your guests will care that you're making them pay for a party in your honor. It's not about you. You can do it however you please, but it will be rude no matter how you spin it. If you insist on doing that, understand that you'll likely have people decline or choose not to participate. No one has to come to this party. They're not obligated to show up and, if they know they'll be hit up for money, they probably won't. That's the part you're missing.

  • Sparky
    Lv 5
    2 months ago

    If you make it clear to people that you don't wish to receive any gifts and explain what their $20 donation will be contributing towards, I think it is fair.

  • 2 months ago

    You should bear the cost of the party if you are going to host it. It is perfectly alright to put a note at the bottom of the invitation saying "in lieu of gifts, please send a donation to Daniel Memorial" or whatever your charity is. If it's a back yard cookout, you could add BYOB, but I wouldn't. I have attended neighborhood parties that requested a modest contribution ($10.00 a couple), but these did not honor any person or occasion.

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  • 2 months ago

    NEVER EVER charge admission to a party YOU are throwing.

    If you cannot afford to throw a party that big, don't.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    No. Just NO. You cannot charge admission to your own Anniversary party. If you do, that will make people throw out the invitation and consider you a very tactless person. You can however, ASK people to BYOB (bring your own booze) which will cut down on costs considerably. Anything else is ridiculous. Unless you are taking them out to a club where there's a cover charge, charging admission is just not going to fly. Its a good way to lose friends...that's for sure.

  • Byrd
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Personally I would immediately toss that invite. Tacky tacky tacky

  • Eva
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    That's really tacky. Have the party you can afford.

  • CB
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    We used to go to a party every year to pick crabs (Maryland Blue Crabs) drink beer/wine, side dishes and there was a cost - and it never bothered anyone Crabs are expensive and the hard work of setting up and keeping things warm and cold were taken care of so well worth it.

  • 2 months ago

    Inviting people to a party and even suggesting that they donate money to it, is TACKY TACKY TACKY.  

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