Jerry asked in Social ScienceGender Studies · 2 months ago

Why do many women deny that romance novels are a form of porn ?

An idealized presentation of sexual relationships consumed by the user that elicits feelings of sexual arousal.

If we can agree that men and women get aroused by different types of stimuli .... why do so many women get so offended when romance novels and porn are compared ?

Some even go as far as, admonishing men as "dirty" for watching porn, whilst justifying their Harley-Quinn s as "art"

Why is male sexuality dirty and female sexuality pure ?

Sex is beautiful either way.

Update:

I've seen some of these books....they present graphically detailed descriptions of the sex act ....movements, touches etc... of course all enlaced with a 'romantic setting' ...it serves the same purpose of arousal.

As far as I'm concerned men should not feel any more guilty of watching porn than women feel from reading romance.

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  • 2 months ago
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    Somebody talks that way because they suffer from a pretty extreme version of hypocrisy, of course, and because of religious puritanism and other kinds of dangerous anti-sexual obsessions.

    Anti-p orn freaks are VERY, very dangerous people. It's MUCH safer to be asleep near a necrophiliac with poor impulse control, or to have a pedophile running a nursery school, than it is to be around anti-p orn nutjobs.

  • 2 months ago

    It's beautiful if you're the one doing it. It's dirty if you're watching others do it.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Are you relay this dumb? Pornography involves _real human beings_ who are often raped and trafficked. You're watching women be raped and trafficked. THAT's why it's wrong. Novels are text. The people in those books don't exist. It might be stupid and idealized and every other bad thing but it's NOT equivalent to watching real women be raped.

    • Dont Call Me Dude
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      2 months agoReport

      Yet ANOTHER idiot doing the equivalent of blaming the Jack Daniel's company for bootleg liquor.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Porn is performed by real people engaged in real sex acts. Romance novels are fictional and nothing like real romance. No man courts a woman the way romance novels depict. Romance novels create unrealistic expectations.

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    In romance novels the characters know each other and have a relationship. The same cannot be said for porn. You're just trying to sink women down to the same filthy level of male porn addicts.

    • Dont Call Me Dude
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      2 months agoReport

      "porn addiction" is a myth, a scam. And YOU are what we used to call on the street "a sucker." Bought any bridges in Brooklyn lately?

  • liz
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    2 months ago

    I agree that they’re close but then, who still reads these books?  The typical female reader of romance novels is a married, middle aged lady of say fifty. She knows exactly what sexual relationships really are like.  The average age that boys - and some girls- first see pOrn is about 12 or 13, when they have zero experience of relationships.  For them it is their first view of what men and women do together and so it is giving them unrealistic impressions right from the start. 

    • liz
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      2 months agoReport

      Yes maybe. I wouldn’t consider protecting kids to be censorship.

  • 2 months ago

    Love and sex are not same. The most pornographic novel is "Arms and the man" by George Bernard Shaw.

  • 2 months ago

    This isn't as true as it once was. The fact is some women still feel threatened by porn - the professionals are all beautiful and toned and do things many women wouldn't, which makes these women feel that they are supposed to compete with the pros but can't, or don't want to. Some men feel the same kind of envy about the men's equipment. Among hard core feminists there's still a contingent that thinks women are simply better than men, so naturally women's sexuality is better. That's blinkered, but there you have it.

  • 2 months ago

    Books can't be compared to porn films, they just can't...

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