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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 6 months ago

My sister is a bully. Does this mean she will always be one?

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  • 6 months ago
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    People who are feeling confident and secure and have self respect don't feel a need to call people names, criticise, bully, shout, etc.

    Bullies want attention, and my general feelings are that if people allow them to get their way through fear (the ultimate emotional reaction) they are succeeding and will continue. One way to combat verbal bullying is not to ignore them completely as this shows that they are getting to you, but demonstrate that you have heard the remark or whatever with a glance, dismissive wave or brief response ("oh yes", or similar) and THEN ignore them. Why should you care what such a pathetic person thinks of you? (Only weak and needy people feel a need to bully). Alternatively, or in addition, try to use some humour (U.K. spellings!). It need not be mocking humour, but some light-hearted banter can often diffuse situations.

    Put on an imaginary suit of golden armour, and visualise the unkind remarks (or those you perceive to be unkind - be very careful not to imagine a slight when none is intended) as arrows, harmlessly bouncing off your armour and falling to the ground.

    If the abuse is physical, you could join a martial arts or self defence class. Or even check out some moves on Youtube. Learn to defend yourself without retaliating.

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  • DIEGO.
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    6 months ago

    this is a good question!

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  • 6 months ago

    Probably, unless someone gives her some wall to wall counseling...

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  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    i would hope not

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  • 6 months ago

    Yes probably unless someone stops her early enough.....probably a bigger bully than she is. Unfortunately, if she rules by fear, she's not going to have a very happy life is she. Her problem - NOT yours. You aren't responsible for your sister's problems made by herself.

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  • Anonymous
    6 months ago

    I think it depends on the individual. Some grow out of it, some do not. My sister never grew out of it.

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  • Anonymous
    6 months ago

    I'm sure she will grow out of it

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  • 6 months ago

    Not necessarily. People can change.

    -Kate Yelkovan

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