You are confusing control with her having to know everything. She is not controlling what you do, therefore there are no control issues here that I can see.
She just needs to know where you are going and what you are doing and what you have done. UGH. That is more about being nosy than trying to gain control over you.
There could be other reasons, but generally your spouse does not need to know your every move as we all like a bit of individuality which includes some basic privacy.
However, I will admit that my spouse sometimes gets upset when I ask him where he is going. Sometimes it is just so I have an idea when he will be back so I can plan dinner. Or other times it is because maybe he is passing a store and can pick something up that we need.
I grew wonderful tomatoes and basil this past summer. One day he walked out of the door holding his car keys. I asked "Where are you going" and he got really pissed and said "None of your effing business". I was taken aback and just thought he was in a raunchy mood, so get the hell out and cool off buddy, I thought.
The reason I asked him where he was going is because I wanted to serve (a caprese salad) fresh mozzarella with the tomatoes and basil for our dinner salad that night. So, I served the salad without the mozzarella. He said "Hey, where is the mozzarella cheese for the salad?" I said "None of your effing business". well, he got the hint, but quick.
Another time we were just about out of toilet tissue. Same scenario: he was headed out and did not like me asking where he was going. I simply wanted him to pick up more toilet tissue....because he forgot it even though it was on the grocery list a few days ago. Well, I let him leave without a fuss. The next morning he is asking for toilet paper and I explained that was why I asked where he was going last night so he could pick some up...as I handed him a box of tissues.
Well, that was the last time he did not answer me when I asked him where he was going. We live in a rural area where it takes an hour, round trip to buy anything other than gasoline.
But, in your case, your wife just needs to know your every single move. Now, that is annoying, indeed.
That sounds more like insecurity rather than being controlling.
He went for a hair cut. Like I would not notice it when he got back? What was the big secret anyway? So silly.