Please do not second guess yourself. I had to disconnect my aunt's car battery because she also had dementia, and was not a safe motorist, as she was driving a two ton bullet.
I would have done the same thing as you did, by disabling his weapon. He could very well become delusional, with family in the house, thinking that he is being burglarized, and kill someone by mistake. Please do not second guess yourself. He may never even know that his gun was disabled, so hush and status quo.
If he can sign his house over to a family member and he lives x number of years (in our state it is 5 years), a nursing facility cannot claim his home asset to pay for nursing home care, if that should be his destiny. So, if you want to protect his home, I would advise you do so while you still can. Also, it is good to get a power of attorney for him, so he can have other lucid people help him with things that may eventually be too confusing for him to handle himself, like handling his affairs, his doctor appointments, his banking and paying his bills.
You must be proactive and ready for anything because once something happens, your hands may be tied to help immediately. So, while you still have the chance, get the family together and be sure he has a power of attorney and a Will as that makes things a helluva lot easier.
It is hard to see a grown man lose his mind. To cope, just tell yourself that you have before you a grown man's body but a soon to be child's mind. It is hard to parent a parent, but that is the way you must handle him because as time passes by, his condition will only get worse. Good luck to you.
P.S. I took care of a relative who had Alzheimer's Disease and dementia was one of the symptoms. Luckily she never got aggressive. Her doctor suggested a 5mg Valium if she got aggressive, but luckily she did not need it.
· 4 weeks ago