do you think moving back is a bad idea?
i move across country alone 10 years ago and moved to different cities over the years, I went back home for a visit last week and really enjoyed my time with family and friends i hadnt seen in a long time. I live currently on the west coast and my hometown is in a dying city (but up and coming) in the midwest. I just wonder if i decide to make the move back home i i will regret it. im 39, single and just tired of being lonely. Any advice? I do love my current city and the mountains i just cant find love here
- 10 months ago
I'm sure there has to be someone you can meet out there. I don't think moving home will change your love life, this seems like it's an inner issue. but if you miss your family and friends a lot then give it a shot
- FoofaLv 710 months ago
I don't know where you're from but I bet it's a lot cheaper than where you're living now. So I'd probably consider making the move (knowing you can always move back if it doesn't work out).
- Anonymous10 months ago
If you say so...
- AndrewLv 710 months ago
I don't think anyone could really say whether you moving back "home" would be a good or bad idea without knowing a few more details. You're pushing 40. You left home at 30. You weren't young when you left and you haven't gotten any younger since. You say that your hometown is "dying", yet "up and coming." That's completely impossible. Either it's one or the other. A dying person isn't making good progress. "Up and coming" means "making progress; will likely be better in the future." So your entire outlook of what it would mean to try and build a life there if you were to return makes no sense. Either it's getting worse (meaning that it wouldn't be a good place to live now, and will probably be worse in the future), or it's improving (meaning that it might not be a great place to live now, but might be better on down the line.)
What are the downsides and negative aspects to this place? Is the job market terrible? Is it a crime-ridden place? Has it seen a lot of hard times - businesses closing, people moving away, etc.? If that's the case, then it obviously wouldn't be a good place to live. It wouldn't be a good place to make a fresh start, and anybody who's currently living there is likely not very happy and not doing very well. If one or more of those things are true, then you ought to pick another place to resettle. Familiarity is't everything, and if you're looking to change your life, it's an overrated concept anyway.
You didn't mention anything about what you plan to do after getting resettled, or getting settled into a new place. What line of work are you in? What's the extent of your education? Those are factors that will determine what kind of jobs you'll be qualified to do and what opportunities will be available to you in different places. Without knowing anything about your experience or education, nobody can say for certain that the job opportunities in one place might be better than those in another.
You want to meet somebody. That's your top priority. Well, if that's number one, then you ought to look at the best places to live for singles. Where can you find the highest concentrations of single people your age? Then, compare that list with a list of cities and towns where the standard of living, cost of living, housing market and job market are in your favour.
Chances are that you left home for a reason. Making the decision to move 2,000 miles across the USA must have been prompted by something. Did you leave for a reason or did you leave because you were just looking for a change? Did you set off because you were heading toward something you thought was better, or were you just leaving because you were sick of the place? It sounds as though you haven't had a great deal of success in the past decade and in your mind, home is familiar, so it might make you feel all warm and cozy inside to go back there because the familiar is less threatening than the unknown.
There are so many different factors that go in to the decision of where we choose to live and work and center our lives. Without knowing anything about you other than the fact that you're single and looking to mingle, how could anybody recommend one town or city over the next one?
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- CharlesLv 510 months ago
Are you employed? Can you get a good job if you go back? If not, would you be content in a different occupation?
- JohnLv 710 months ago
1) Dating pools can vary from place to place, yes. 2) Even so, you take your life with you wherever you go. Likely you will be lonely no matter what because it is you, not the place.
- Anonymous10 months ago
If you live in Pueblo Colorado I'd tell you to move back. Completely biased statement. It's actually not that horrible here. I've been here for 24 years. Random facts of a random stranger.
I'd do anything to have a family that I could enjoy being around. I don't think anyone but you can answer that. I'd say go with your gut and I wish you good luck!
- Anonymous10 months ago
Remember why you left? I won't be any different now. Just face the fact that you will live your life as a "lonely man" and take comfort it the fact that everyone dies alone.