There are only three negative emotions - anger, fear and sadness - and variations of them.
Why allow sadness to rule you - to 'press you down'?
Why give control of your life over to anything?
Emotions are not an indicator of reality.
You can sit in a movie theater and be very afraid, but in reality you are perfectly safe.
Because we are trained to hide our weaknesses and show our strengths, most people use anger as their 'go-to' emotion when they are (in reality) hurting.
In other cases, retreating into yourself and allowing sadness to rule your mind has caused crippling self-concern.
The advertising industry programmed us to think we don't have enough. It sells their products and drives the economy. They want you to think you're not good enough. Not cooool enough.
They made you insecure.
'THINK AHEAD' they told you as a child... but think about what? You control nothing. Thinking ahead inspires fear of what's coming - which is anxiety.
Does it feel good to feel sorry for yourself, cuz no one else will? That hook will drag you into a deep deep pit of depression. Helping others gets your mind off of you and the inevitable morbid self obsession.
Like I said, for others, anger becomes a 'go-to' emotion - they can't deal with people and don't want to show them the are sad, lonely and hurt.
Don't resort to anger. Let it go people. Anger is NOT a god... it is not protecting you... it is destroying you... ruining your life.
Forgive. Most things can be brushed off. For deep betrayal, or wilful wrongs against you... forgive them because you need forgiveness too....
And if you don't forgive, God will not forgive you.
All these things are lessons that Jesus taught me... just a few of countless lessons on my journey with him. Make him the Lord of your life: make him your bomb shelter; he will protect you and set you free. He is the way and the truth and the life, and you will finally enjoy yours and be a blessing to others if you humble yourself and seek mercy from him.
God bless you on your journey.