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What do you think of the Jehovah's Witnesses practice of disfellowshipping? If you are a former Witness, I'd like to hear from you. Thanks.?

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  • 9 months ago
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    This spring I met a couple in their70s who left the JWs the previous year and were disfellowshipped for disloyalty to the Governing Body (8 men in America who control everything JWs believe and do.) The chap was an elder but discovered what was really going on in their ranks and when he questioned this, he was accused of being "a spiritual threat". He and his wife had been zealous JWs for at least 6 decades each and had brought 30 people "into the Truth", raising their 3 children to be equally zealous JWs. But one of them also left and was disfellowshipped (also an elder and married). The other 2 shunned all 4 of them.

    On Saturday the daughter who is shunning her parents shoved a letter through her parent's door and left a box of returned stuff. She was moving north but would not say 'goodbye'. She drove off before her mother got to the door. Included in the returns were poetry books given to her and a wedding anniversary card her parents had posted her this year - unopened. That daughter is being utterly manipulated by JW leaders. We are praying she will be reached by Christians in the village she's moving to.

    The disfellowshipping practice is employed as a control device to stop JWs discovering what is really going on that is wrong in the leadership. Yes, the Bible warns against certain things that must not be allowed to continue with those claiming to be Christians, but check out the long, long list of rules that, if not strictly adhered to, will get you disfellowshipped and shunned! It goes way beyond what the Bible says. It is the resulting shunning that proves the extreme fear the Governing Body suffers from. They know thousands leave or quietly slip out the back door, but they've got to impose shunning on them, to ensure other JWs never learn the truth as to why they left. Now even 'faders' are to be shunned! The huge fear inflicted on all JWs by these practices is that Armageddon is about to start and, if they are not zealous, loyal JWs doing everything their elders instruct, they will likely die, never to be resurrected. Fear governs the Governing Body and all JWs who believe them, and that's what the practice of disfellowshipping and shunning is all about. You will be shunned if you are disfellowshipped, and you may be shunned even if you are not disfellowshipped! Yet we get JWs on here claiming they don't shun anyone?!? I expect my answer will be removed.

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    • Madam Sin Bin
      Lv 6
      9 months agoReport

      No, treating your family like disposable garbage unless they comply with Dear Leaders is not a Biblical anything. That's how a cult controls its members, Rolando.

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  • 9 months ago

    I Dont belive in what the JW teach, I dont belive they have the Truth in the first place starting with his name "Jehovah" Then...there was all the false predictions from the founder "Charles Taze Russell" They are most definately a cult but as for the disfellowship I think it really sums up what it is all about, A big "Hierarchy" What happened to helping a fellow brother or sister in the Lord? What happened to forgiveness within the people that call them selfs Christians? I really dont agree with any of it....

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    • daylily61
      Lv 6
      9 months agoReport

      Jenny--ignore Rolando. You know more about our loving, merciful God and the Bible than Rolando probably ever will ⛪👑🕊

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  • 9 months ago

    I believe in Jesus !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    JW are fake wannbe Christians they don't even believe in Christ lmfao

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  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    I think the big problem is children may be baptized before they know their heart

    parent pressure...... Thus the 23 year old baptized at 13 who is DF has his life turned upside down

    my experience is you do not have to change your behavior (drunkenness, fornication etc) JUST hide it better after the reinstatement

    the honest people are not going back because they never were members just following mom's orders to do so

    it is funny to have the elder who leads the group to DF you be known fall down drunk and they all deny it

    but it comes under the old saying no one can screw you over like family

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    • Rich, M.A.9 months agoReport

      Good point. The brain is not fully formed until the 20s. It has been empirically proven. A child is unable to make such a seemingly-important life decision at that age.

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  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    I think it is scriptural, Biblical and therefore proper. Even God practiced it.

    For those who ask for evidence:

    Exodus 31:14 "Ye shall keep the sabbath therefore; for it is holy unto you: everyone that profaneth it shall surely be put to death; for whosoever doeth any work therein, that soul shall be cut off from among his people.” Cut off is the Hebrew karath: it means cut down, destroy, eliminate. These people were cut off - in death, yes, but cut off from everybody in Israel including their family. Miriam was struck with leprosy and cut off for seven days, Aaron pleaded with God for mercy and Moses interceded. Why would anybody think God would punish Miriam for the serious act of complaining against Moses but just ignore a worshiper practicing fornication?

    Leviticus 18:29: “Any person who does any of these detestable practices is to be cut off from his people." Mathew Henry’s Commentary on verse 29 reads: “the souls that commit them shall be cut off -- This strong denunciatory language is applied to all the crimes specified in the chapter without distinction: to incest as truly as to bestiality, and to the eleven cases of affinity [ Lev 18:7-16 ], as fully as to the six of consanguinity [ Lev 18:17-20 ]. Death is the punishment sternly denounced against all of them. No language could be more explicit or universal; none could more strongly indicate intense loathing and abhorrence.”

    Some (but not all) rabbinic scholars believe that the cutting off was only expulsion from the congregation of Israel. Opinions differ. They would still be cut off - excommunicated - disfellowshipped from the congregation.

    1 Corinthians 5:11: ” But actually, I wrote you not to associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister and is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or verbally abusive, a drunkard or a swindler. Do not even eat with such a person.” Jamieson Fausset Brown Commentary on this verse: “Put away from among yourselves that wicked -- Sentence of excommunication in language taken from Deu 24:7.

    Matthew Henry Commentary on this verse: “Though the church has nothing to do with those without, it must endeavour to keep clear of the guilt and reproach of those within. How he applies the argument to the case before him: "Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person, v. 13. Cast him out of your fellowship, and avoid his conversation.'

    Finally, God kicked out Adam and Eve from the paradise Garden of Eden. God kicked out disobedient angels from heaven. It is ridiculous for a Christian to suggest that another Christian can practice anything he wants and still worship God along with God's faithful servants. The church must be clean and remain clean. If he doesn't want to stop his sin, out he goes until he does want to be clean.

  • BJ
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    The Bible commands Christians: Quit mixing in company with anyone called a brother that is a fornicator or a greedy person or an idolater or a reviler or a drunkard or an extortioner, not even eating with such a man. 1 Corinthians 5:11.

    Is this Bible law harsh and demeaning? When a hardened criminal is sent to prison for breaking the law, is that viewed as harsh or coldhearted?

    No, because the public has the right to safeguard the peace and security of the community.

    In effect, the criminal is disfellowshipped from law-abiding society during his prison term.

    Similarly, the Christian congregation is justified in expelling unrepentant wrongdoers from their midst.

    Why? Because the congregation must be a haven from immoral predators and other willful practicers of sin.

    Realizing that one sinner can destroy much good, the apostle Paul commanded fellow believers: Remove the wicked man from among yourselves. 1 Corinthians 5:13

    This action prevents the sinner from spreading corruption in the congregation, and it protects the congregation’s good name.

    2 John 9:11

    Everyone that pushes ahead and does not remain in the teaching of the Christ does not have God If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, never receive him into your homes or say a greeting to him.

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    • Paul9 months agoReport

      Since you believe that you have the "teaching of Christ," you should have no problem answering my questions honestly. This is a TRUE teaching of the Christ (the Bible) yet you have failed to answer twice already. Why is that? Should a person be shunned for revealing the true teaching of Christ?

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  • 9 months ago

    I think breaking up families is a sin.

    Source(s): Greek Orthodox Christian
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    • Madam Sin Bin
      Lv 6
      9 months agoReport

      What part of 'your family should matter more to you than cult teachings that get nearly everything about the Bible absolutely wrong' do you not get, Rolando?

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  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    Here are the reasons one would get disfellowshipped



    anal or oral sex



    encouraging the celebration of birthdays or other prohibited celebrations

    blood transfusions


    "brazen conduct" or "loose conduct",including:

    association with disfellowshipped non-relatives,

    "spiritual" association with disfellowshipped relatives

    criticizing a disfellowshipping decision

    child sexual abuse

    dating while "not legally or Scripturally free to marry"

    cybersex or phone sex

    drug abuse








    celebrating religious and national holidays

    homosexual activity




    interfaith activity



    joining the military


    physical uncleanness (extreme)

    political activities


    hardcore pornography

    refusal to provide for family

    remarriage "if adultery and rejection by the innocent mate had not occurred"



    subversive, antigovernment activity


    the use of tobacco

    verbal abuse


    voting in political elections

    Of course, we would do our best to help them see how they are sinning against Jehovah and help them get the aid needed to help them practice these sins. If they do not want help, then we without our fellowship with them until they correct their actions.

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    • Rebmilc
      Lv 4
      9 months agoReport

      Ahhh Rolando, I fully understand that it must be a bitter pill to swallow, the fact that an organization to which you have devoted your time, efforts and finances has actually conned you. But you will have to face that fact one day. Especially in view of the new law suits for peadophilia.

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  • Huh?
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    It's immoral. Destroying families and isolating members is a practice common in cults.

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