Owning a home is part of the American dream. It is also something purchased, with a decision about that purchase.
Apartments are according to what's available, and in NYC, very little is available, and they rent out before you choose it.
Ive lived in my single family home, rented apartments, own a condo.
A family does better in a single family home.
Life is more focused around the home. In an apartment, life is focused on outside the apartment.