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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingPregnancy · 11 months ago

Is it fair if a pregnant wife stays home while her partner goes out every other night having fun?

My friend is pregnant and her partner isn't helping her. He is going out every weekend on camping trips and festivals and during the week he goes to bars. His reasoning is that he needs to enjoy his life before the baby arrives. Is it fair he gets to enjoy life while she stays at home? Just curious what people think.

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  • Edna
    Lv 7
    10 months ago

    This doesn't concern you. It's your friends problem (if there is one) - it's not yours. Butt out of her business.

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  • Pippin
    Lv 7
    10 months ago

    Why does she have to stay at home? If he is imprisoning her at home (not allowing her money or access to a car, or preventing her from joining him at festivals and evenings out with friends) then that is serious spousal abuse.

    Otherwise, it's a situation where the two partners may have different interests and a different social circle. She can join him at the festivals, go camping with him, go to the bars (they do serve non-alcoholic drinks, and he would need a designated driver anyway. Or, if those don't interest her, she can do her own thing -- whether that means visiting friends, going to a movie or the library or shopping.

    Now, the 'not helping' is a different matter. If they live together, he should indeed do his share around the house. But that has nothing to do with her being pregnant. It's part of the life-time commitment.

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  • 11 months ago

    He's going to continue this after the baby is born. He's not mature enough to be having a child. This is why he hasn't married her, either.

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  • MissA
    Lv 7
    11 months ago

    I think that the decision of whether this is okay or not is up to your friend, not you, and you should mind your business.

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  • LizB
    Lv 7
    11 months ago

    I think it's between them. If it bothers her then she should say something and they should talk about it work it out, but some people are just homebodies and she may actually enjoy the time to herself.

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