I said my mother was a racist. She angrily denied it. Should I apologize to my mother?

I was born and raised in an all white community. Unfortunately, many of the people who live here are racist to some degree. A new family just moved into town, and they are not white. The family has been subjected to some pretty nasty remarks and behavior from the locals. I told my mother that I was outraged and... show more I was born and raised in an all white community. Unfortunately, many of the people who live here are racist to some degree. A new family just moved into town, and they are not white. The family has been subjected to some pretty nasty remarks and behavior from the locals. I told my mother that I was outraged and ashamed of the community. My mother said, "I agree that people shouldn't bother them, but they knew when they moved here that this was an all white community, and that it was probably inevitable that this would happen, so it's hard for me to feel sorry for them. They knew it would cause trouble if they moved here." I told my mother that her ridiculous mentality was exactly the same as the other people who had been harassing the new family, and that it was the attitudes of people like her that perpetuate the endless cycle of hatred and racism. Mom got pretty upset and denied being a racist. I told her that what she was doing was worse, because she was sympathetic and tolerant to the deplorable, racist behavior in the community. She is my mom, and I love her, so I hate having such heated disagreements with her. I usually just apologize, and move past it, but I just don't think I can apologize or take the blame for this one, because everything she said goes against my conscience and morals, and I also feel I have to set an example for my children. Any advice on how to make peace with my mother without compromising my morals?
Update: Bozo- ALL white people have a certain level of privilege that comes from solely being white, myself included. Wrong as it may be, it is still a fact. No argument there. I am not denying my white privilege. If you are white, you are also white privileged. EVERY white person is privileged. Again, not saying it is... show more Bozo- ALL white people have a certain level of privilege that comes from solely being white, myself included. Wrong as it may be, it is still a fact. No argument there. I am not denying my white privilege. If you are white, you are also white privileged. EVERY white person is privileged. Again, not saying it is right, but it is still true. Not really sure what your point is there. I will never deny that white privilege exists.
Update 2: Bozo- As far as my "assumptions" that most of the people in my community are racist and deplorable, that is not a prejudicial point of view, that is a FACT. It is a relatively small community where everyone pretty much knows everyone, and when every other word out of their mouths is the "n"... show more Bozo- As far as my "assumptions" that most of the people in my community are racist and deplorable, that is not a prejudicial point of view, that is a FACT. It is a relatively small community where everyone pretty much knows everyone, and when every other word out of their mouths is the "n" word, it is a pretty safe assumption. You really have no idea what you are talking about, especially as it relates to my community and their view points. But no matter, keep living in ignorant bliss!
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