why do you have to look people in the eye when talking?

really hate having to do that. whys it required to be considered polite? i can still hear you if im not looking at you.........we can still talk....... my eyes are not my ears bro..........

also eyes look freaky. so. thats another thing

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  • Anonymous
    10 months ago
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    bc with your eyes you see. what you look at and see is what you acknowledge the person you are talking to wants to be acknowledged. .

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  • Alan H
    Lv 7
    10 months ago

    You may well hear.....but it looks as if you are not listening with any attention. Courtesy costs nothing

    • payton10 months agoReport

      what if im in the middle of something that needs my eyes' attention but doesnt need my ears' attention. what then, Marie And Alan.

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  • 10 months ago

    Eye contact is very cultural. In many cultures, people maintain eye contact much longer than most Americans do. Anonymous is right that in many Asian cultures, people don't maintain eye contact very long. These things are so deeply embedded in people that it's very hard to change. But you CAN work on it- try just maintaining eye contact just a little bit longer than is comfortable for you. Then when that become comfortable, stretch it a little farther. But take your cues from the person you're talking to. If you maintain eye contact too long with most Americans, it makes them uncomfortable.

    • payton10 months agoReport

      so youre saying that i can make any american uncomfortable if i stare at their pupils long enough? this may be a grave mistake youve just made

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  • 10 months ago

    The eyes show (or indicate) whether you are paying attention to the speaker,

    If you are looking elsewhere, the impression you are giving is that their message is not important enough for you to pay attention.

    BTW, it's not just about looking into their eyes; it's about your whole body positioning.

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  • Anonymous
    10 months ago

    It's Asian culture not to look people in the eyes while talking to them, so maybe you were part Asian in a previous life

    • payton10 months agoReport

      what the **** are you talking about

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