Why would a parent be this way toward a formerly estranged adult child who has recently fallen upon hard times and now needs their help?

Why would they ask that the adult child NOT visit any of the extended family or family friends? Or ask that the adult child also not tell anyone that during the years that they weren't in contact with the parents, that they had fallen victim to a lot of things, including break-ins, robbery, rape, workplace bullying, and even being harrassed (and sometimes even threatened) in public (and sometimes at work) by people telling them that God wants them at home with their parents and that they may be "taken out of the world" if they don't "behave"; or that prior to them reaching out to the parent that they had been hospitalized following a suicide attempt?

Why would the parent want the formerly estranged child to avoid the rest of the family and to keep all of these traumatic experiences a secret?

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    11 months ago

    Sounds like the parents don't really believe the child went through all this and is just concocting drama. They likely believe this adult child has some emotional problems and while they're willing to help to keep them alive they don't want the rest of the family to recognize that there's an issue. This would be my guess.

  • Lili
    Lv 7
    12 months ago

    Discuss it with a shrink, dear. You're a mess.

  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    12 months ago

    maybe theyre embarrassed and dont want everyone knowing their business

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