Why would a parent be this way toward a formerly estranged adult child who has recently fallen upon hard times and now needs their help?

Why would they ask that the adult child NOT visit any of the extended family or family friends? Or ask that the adult child also not tell anyone that during the years that they weren't in contact with the parents, that they had fallen victim to a lot of things, including break-ins, robbery, rape, workplace... show more Why would they ask that the adult child NOT visit any of the extended family or family friends? Or ask that the adult child also not tell anyone that during the years that they weren't in contact with the parents, that they had fallen victim to a lot of things, including break-ins, robbery, rape, workplace bullying, and even being harrassed (and sometimes even threatened) in public (and sometimes at work) by people telling them that God wants them at home with their parents and that they may be "taken out of the world" if they don't "behave"; or that prior to them reaching out to the parent that they had been hospitalized following a suicide attempt?

Why would the parent want the formerly estranged child to avoid the rest of the family and to keep all of these traumatic experiences a secret?
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