do all parents just do the required minimum by the state?
never went to the doctor
never asked about life or tried to make things better
never teaching life skills or how things work/how to get by when becoming an adult
never available to help out - unless its something they can tell people about
just how it is?
- ZirpLv 710 months ago
Outside dystopian novels, no
Most parents will do the best they can
- WoodrowLv 510 months ago
No, you may have bad parent or you may be expecting too much. A strange thing to me being at least a little older than you if not as old as your parents is I hear this compliment often; "Nobody asks me about my day or takes an interest in my funny stickers collection..." etc the way you said "...never asked about life or tried to make things better never teaching life skills..." Well did you ask to be?
I hear a strange entitlement where one just expects every need to be met perfectly on cue without making those needs known. Even the best parents aren't that good. Well trained therapists know how to pull it out of you but they can only take the horse to water, not force it to drink.
If you want someone to listen to you about your day, ask them to. Build the relationship with your parents and others where that trust and fidelity can be made and maintained. The problem is, I think your parents didn't know that either. They also expected everyone to love them and everyone did not. They were special just the way they are so there was no reason to change.