Here lies the problem and it is not with your mother, it is that although you claim to be a mature 24 year old woman, your maturity level lacks a bit of intelligence.
Here you are, "talking" to a guy for a year. He has children, is a deadbeat dad, and has warrants out for his arrest. Now, sweetie, what about those issues do you not see as a problem? Yet, you still want to finagle a way to see him? Umm, why?
What to you actually think he has to offer you? He cannot even take care of himself or his children and you want a relationship with that? What is wrong with you is that you are so stuck on this fantasy of being with him that you cannot see who he really is. A real man takes care of his kids. A real man faces the consequences of a warrant. These are the problems you KNOW of. What about all of the things you do not even have a clue about?
If you want to act like an adult and do whatever you want, then leave mommy and daddy's house and go live an adult lifestyle. I dare you.
And, if you do manage to hook up with this loser boyfriend, do use birth control because if he cannot take care of himself and his other children, how on earth do you think he is going to put you and another kid on his priority list? You will be on the bottom of his list.
There are things happening that you refuse to see and acknowledge. His irresponsibility is eventually going to effect you. I can see it now...you finally meet him again and ooops, he is speeding and gets pulled over. The cop does a check and finds out there is a warrant for his arrest, you are left stranded somewhere and have to call mommy and daddy to come and get you. Then he stays in jail because he has no money for bail. Maybe they will let you visit him there.