Don't be confused and don't think it's your fault. He wasn't into a relationship as such - so you have had a lucky escape really. 18 year old guys are usually after sex primarily and if it doesn't appear on the menu quickly enough, they make their escape in the hopes they'll find it somewhere else. His idea of relationship was sex - your idea of relationship was closeness, kindness and possibly eventually some sex too - but not primarily. Males/females are wired differently. You stick to your own personal rules and you will (after tentatively sampling a few more guys) find one that suits you perfectly. You'd have done better blubbing to another girl than a guy-friend because although he probably did his best for you, he wouldn't have totally understood what you were on about either, being a man. Also, I would suggest that in future broken relationships (there will be more I'm sure) you dispense with the 'let's just be friends' rubbish. It doesn't work and just complicates the issue. It's obviously done so for him because it sounds like he's confused too. However, that's NOT your problem. Don't feel too sorry for him. He dumped you, so leave him to stew in his own juice. There are plenty more fish in the sea. The main thing is NOT to feel that it's something you did or didn't do. He just wasn't the right person for you at this particular time. You probably need someone a little more mature.