Neither of you are ready to make a relationship work, so should he come back, you two will only end up breaking up again.
Isn’t it just simpler to work through the pain of this breakup, rather than going through breakup after breakup with all the ongoing and repeated pain of it?
- He has emotional issues
- He has not resolved the baggage from his previous relationship
- Neither of you face and work with your own inner emotions, so you both try to blame each other and them try to make the other person change … this is why you two fight.
- You blew up at him. Love requires the maturity to NOT blow up, but to remain gentle and respectful even when you are hurt and don’t like what is happening.
- You told him something out of anger that you didn’t mean. The intent was to hurt him .. this is not what love does.
- The connection between you two is real .. real toxic. And NOT one OF actual love. Need, dependency, self-centered attachment and caring about how we feel rather than our partner’s needs .. this isn’t love. It is a recipe for disaster, and you have seen this but refuse to face the reality of it.
- Missing him is ONLY a “withdrawal symptom” of your addiction to your neediness and your emptiness inside. It will pass, but you have to have the patience and tolerance and NOT allow yourself to dwell on the past. And he SHOULD be your past.
HE needs to be alone until he resolves his past issues, and can face and work with his own emotional discomforts.
YOU need to be alone until you are happy being alone, and comfortable supporting yourself and seeing yourself as able to make your future work without leaning on someone else.
We never end up happier with someone else, than we were happy when we were single. And since you are not ready to make a relationship work, it is far better to remain single and work on your emotional wholeness rather than getting into relationship-after-relationship that blows up in your face … Or YOU will end up unable to open up to the fearful vulnerability that real love requires.