Dread my mother ever dying as I have no one else in this world apart from her?
I'm an only child with no family anywhere and friends have rejected me, so it's just me and mum. How can I ever prepare?
I don't have that Foofa. I'm 48 and am still a spinster. That ship has long since sailed.
- 10 months agoFavorite Answer
You can never prepare for what's to come. It happens and we cry few tears, and then move on with our life.
- FoofaLv 710 months ago
You prepare by forging your own life with friends, a fulfilling career and possibly even a romantic partner and children of your own. I used to fear my mother's death as you do but now that I'm happily married with kids I accept this as the "circle of life" and I prepare myself for her ultimate demise knowing that I fulfilled what she wanted for me...that being a full life with a job that I love and a family that loves me.
- Dr. StephanieLv 710 months ago
You said "just me and mum", and that's the clue: you need to expand your social world. If you have difficulty doing so, get yourself into therapy, preferably, group therapy, and learn how to have friends, socialize, develop your own life apart from your dependence (and probable interdependence) on mum. Meanwhile, treasure good times with her, you'll have them later on as keepsakes. Good wishes,
- PatriciaLv 710 months ago
No one can prepare for this sort of thing, but i don't understand why you're making catastrophe predictions? It's not healthy and causes anxiety.
Living RIGHT NOW and enjoying what is going on in the present is much healthier. Your mom is obviously still around so be happy for that.
And you can make an effort to make friends, if that's what you want to do, as well.
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- linkus86Lv 710 months ago
Sometimes you just can't. Sometimes we don't know how we will handle things until we are faced with the situation. Making good friends often serves as a good back up to the loss of family.
- PearlLv 710 months ago
ask god to help you deal with that
- Anonymous10 months ago
Be glad that you had her and that she was so special to you. I have a mother who was emotionally abusive. I would be thrilled if she was dying of something for the memory of her pain would be easier to manage were she gone and in hell forever.
- 10 months ago
Death is something hard to prepare for because you can’t really prepare for it. However as you get older, you’ll be able to handle it better in a way. Enjoy your time with her now and also allow new people into your life like distance family members and friends
- Emerald IsleLv 510 months ago
Focus on death, study death, make new friends. You need to keep in mind that you're stronger than you realise.
- 10 months ago
Your mother doesn't belong to you she belongs to God.